I've known my best friend since I was 6 and she was 8. We are in our late twenties now. She has stood by me at all times and now she's in trouble.
She could be pregnant but its still a bit too soon to tell. She discussed it with her boyfriend and he says that he has been very careful and that she must have cheated on him. She says she didn't and I believe her cause she loves him a lot and she is faithful to him.
Woman's intuition: this guy is just using her and he has no intention of getting married to her.
We are both not for abortion but how do I find out about this guy and what can I do. I feel helpless seeing her go through this. She has no other family either. What do I do and how do I help her?
2007-01-17 14:33:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best you can do for her is just be there for her to talk with.
She may need someone to physically help her to support herself and make plans to raise baby. Do what you can, with that.
Once baby is born, tests can be done, and this lout of a B can be forced into child support.
2007-01-17 14:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just be there don't make pass judgments as she loves him. Tell her no matter what you will be by her side even if you have to be in the birthing room threes medical assistance and many moms work with babies offer to help her babysit as well give her hope.. give her backup where obviously the slouch man cannot. he is a coping out and there are paternity tests and she can and best make him pay child support he can be summons to court and if she gets assistance it will be done. you can help her look now for a bassinet crib etc theres a place called birthright in some towns to help with things. she is not alone if she has you. she will most likely lose him with his attitude. the paternity test will prove her right so as long as she has you and a name for the bay and some kind of plan things will be ok .. who needs a pissy father he will make no life he sux already .
2007-01-17 22:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friend should just tell him to leave. it sounds meean, but honestly, is he really going to take care of her and the baby? and its not just money; she should consider how it will affect her to have him in her life forever, even if he is mean to her (which he is being mean, in my opinion). the best thing for her to do would be to have the baby, consider an open adoption (that's what i would do) or if she keeps it, sign up for WIC so she can get baby formula and stuff. if she really wants to have her boyfriend as an active father she should get a paternity test-my brother and his ex are having one done next month(exact same situation, only they are younger). i really advise against them getting married at this point-he has proven unreliable, the marriage wouldn't work out if it was just for the baby, if they fought this time period would always come up, and it would be unfair to the child for them to argue all the time. the best thing to do is to ask what would be best for the baby-that's what mothers do. but she also needs to remember that the baby won't be happy unless she is happy.
2007-01-18 00:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Astrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the guy and become the childs god mother i mean the guy doesnt want anything to do with her but then again you cant always trust your best friend but in your case i believe you and her the guy needs to wake up and take care of responsibility then again you have to be her family and support and helping with things dont feel helpless there are countless things that can be done you can help her with grocerys and baby clothes and stuff like that dont ever slip and just be her rock and pray about it God Bless
2007-01-17 22:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara Loves Kenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, that's the consequence of having sex b4 marriage, maybe for some people thats juz common, but for me, if you take the chance, take the risk. the risk is your best friend is pregnant, and the guy doesnt want to be responsible,
so.. juz try talking to him to resolve the problems if he doest wana be responsible, just make plan b to handle the baby, by being a single mom or give the baby to her parents
or keep try to force him to be responsible, but i dont think that the marriage will last long if you're friend married him just for the baby.
2007-01-17 22:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by wEnNy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him tell him how she feels about him and tell him rubbers dont always work say if you dont love her why are you with her beacuse she loves you dearly and would never even think of cheating on you lay it on the table and be there for her you may be all she has but at leats let her know she has that it mite b time 4 here to move on
2007-01-17 22:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Hyper Hammy*~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋