why are my parents SO STUPID?!?

Question

my parents are OVERPROTECTIVE OF ME
i've tried so many ways to get around them
and i study them all the time to see how they think!
but NOTHING works.
they dont let me go out anymore ANYWHERE
bc " I went out to much and came home late"
when it was only freaken 7:30! and i only went
out for the weekend..
the skool is having this sleepover thing and
they wont let me go for NO REASON!!!!
i even showed them the permission slip
what do i do???
i want to go out with my friends on saturday
but im guessing my parents wil say no.
should i disobey them and go??
i've had enough! life is about being rebellious so why not right?

one of the places i went "out" to
was to help out at church for
community service and my parents
think that this was having fun -_-

i've tried talking to my parents
i've tried to be mature and all
that but its just not working
if i dont do something now ,
ill never be able to go out

by the way i am 14

i even asked my parents that
for my birthday, instead of throwing me a big
party or giving me gifts or whatever
that they could just let me go out and guess
what they said? NO

Answer 1

Life is NOT about being rebellious. Life is about having fun.
And although you're not having any fun with your parents on your side, I guarantee it will be worse without them. Your parents have legal control over your life until you are 18. They can make your life a living he11. I promise it can *always* be worse.

If you want to fix your parental problem, I recommend sitting them down for a family meeting. Talk to them rationally, like a mature adult and tell them that you can handle going out for a night with your friends. Set up a plan with them. Tell them that you know that with more priveleges comes more responsibility. So set up a plan with them. For example, every A on your report card, you get a night out with friends. Or for every ten times you take out the trash, you get to stay out an hour later.
Be willing to make compromises, and do NOT argue with them. Do not raise your voice, throw temper tantrums or get upset. Just keep it cool and your parents will realize that even though you don't get your way, you can still be calm, patient and rational. They'll get the message eventually.

Good luck- you might need it!

Answer 2

Your parents are being overly protective because they love you and they worry at your age you might not make the right decisions. You already proved that you make poor decisions by coming home late, no matter what the time they asked you to be home. If you want your parents to trust you, you will have to earn that trust by showing them when you have the opportunity you can do the right thing.

If you disobey the and go, you will only assure them that you can't make good decisions and although you may think its okay to do so, it will only make your situation worse.

I have a feeling, however, you're not reading a word I'm typing. You see, you're so wrapped up in "you", there is no room in your brain for doing the right thing. In time perhaps you will learn, but in the meantime, you're going to be a very miserable little girl.

PS: Its spelled "school" not "skool"

Answer 3

If you disobey them they will be more strict with you. You should talk to them and explain why you feel you are responsible and trustworthy enough to be ready for more freedom. Then prove it by doing all your chores without complaining, being home when you say you will etc.

You don't say how old you are so I don't know if you were "out late" for your age, but it's very important to parents to be able to rely on you get home when you say you will, because otherwise, they worry!! There are so many things that can happen to you, and parents always think the worst because they love you and want you to be safe.

Answer 4

Hey girl, I am sorry you are having a bad time. My parents were like your parents when I was a teenager. What happens is that they are afraid because you are growing up. What I can tell you is that you will soon grow up and your life will have more freedom and more responsibility too. Hang in there and things will get better once you grow up. I started enjoying more and more my life after high school and college. Now I am 27 and I can tell you this, life is not about rebelling but about making good decisions for your own.
God bless you.

Answer 5

You are obviously young and the young see little reprucussion to their actions. Your parents are not "stupid" ... it appears they love you enough to teach you what is acceptable and not acceptable. You may not appreciate it now, but one day you will. If they decline on letting you go to even reputable events, perhaps you haven't earned their respect. Just your style of writing shows inmaturity. You have to give respect to earn respect. It doesn't appear that you are making much effort on that front. You deserve to enjoy life, but depending on your age, rules and boundries are a must. Sneaking out will only cause worse problems between you and your parents. Why not just have a couple friends to your house, so your parents can see that you have good intensions. Little by little they will trust, after you've earned it. For now, it is what it is.

Answer 6

Wow!!! I see you are still in high school, well your parents are not stupid. Regardless of what you think they love you very much... You have to earn their trust if they said 7:30pm curfew then meet that curfew. You have to establish some responsibility of your actions and gain your parents trust... Life is not about being rebellious it's finding out who you are. Don't disobey your parents no matter what they do they love you and want the best for you....

Answer 7

you know, i think you should talk to your parents about that.
life being rebellious? it will not work all the time, most of the time you'll just end up even hurt than you already are..

maybe it's the places you usually go to or the things that you usually do at those places that's the problem.

anyway...

try talking to them both at the same time and ask them to listen to your side for a moment, don't let them speak and make them listen. don't make threats coz it will get you no where. tell them to listen to you.

you see, they love you. it's just how parents show them that's the problem.

le them show how responsible you really are and i'm definitely sure you'll earn their trust

don't be immature though

good luck! ^_^

Answer 8

ok, try this: so, you have a permission slip. sit your parents down and say "Mom, dad, i am fourteen. and i think that i should have some resposiblities. take this sleep over for instance. i will be with freinds, there will be resposible adults, and everything will be fine." try to arrage a pick up with one of your frined's mom who is going to the party.

let me tell you, being rebellious is not going to help. i have tried it, and i has only desroyed my trust with my parents, which will make them even more protective of you.

i will be surprized if you even got this far. by now, i can just imagine how confuzzled you are wit all of these answers. bu, just do what your heart tells you.

good luck!

Answer 9

well I don't think your parents are Stupid.If you gave them reasons not to trust you then that's why you are not aloud to go out.You need to prove to then that you can be trusted and things may change,My Daughter is 14. Life is not all about being rebellious because some day all that crazy stuff you did as a kid will come back and Bite you in the Behind,trust me all adults was kids at one time

Answer 10

sounds like they are kinda dumb. I'm 27 mom of 3 and my parents were the same way. I became so sneaky and rebellous , i don't know if I regret it or not, I probably would've gone crazy had I not but at the same time I got a little too crazy. I dont understand why some parents are like that when the kid hasnt done anything to break their parents trust. If you are going to rebel then I would do it quietly and don't do anything dangerous or self destructive.