My bf and I were having a long distance relationship. I have just left him for my career two months ago. Things were all ok before I left. However he wrote me a break-up letter today and told me that he doesn't feel the same way anymore. But he was the sweetest guy I could ever be with. All the things he did for me was so wonderful and more than a normal bf would do. He is now extremely busy with his life but I seriously thought things would stay the same. However he has changed and stopped contacting me. I emailed him a couple times and I got his emails back too. He sounded ok and was sweet. But the thing i don't understand is that why he can change overnight and telling me that he ahs been feeling neglected. He thinks that I never truly understood him. He wants to call it off and move on. How do I get him to contact me again? I am not doing anything right now cuz I think we need a few days off. I know I need to be mature to talk to him. Please help to make him understand my feelings.
2007-01-17 14:19:23 · 11 answers · asked by Citychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry guys I forgot to mention that he was totally ok with being long distance. I thought about leaving a long time ago and he was preparing for it. I think the only person that wasn't ok was me. Cuz I kept on trying to get hold of him. He just told me that I can't make things all bad. I know that i am clingy but it is long distance though. Now he wants to get over me but what if I give up things here (I haven'tstarted the career here yet) and go back to him, will it change!? Thanks guys....I appreciate your help.
2007-01-17 14:20:50 · update #1
I HOPE U TWO WILL FIND UR WAY TO BE TOGETHER AGAIN....
IT IS REALLY A HARD TO HAVE THIS LONG DISTNACE RELATIONSHIP...
ESPECIALLY WHEN U START UR OWN FAMILY...
BUT IF IT WONT BE POSSIBLE, MAYBE U REALLY HAVE TO TALK ABOUT LETTING EACH OTHER GO...
AND FIND EACH OTHER'S PARTNERS...THAT WOULD NOT REQUIRE U TO HAVE THIS LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP AGAIN.
2007-01-25 13:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmin Elemento 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah long distance does that. Thats what happened to me pretty much. I guess it sorta shows the true nature of the person you know what I mean? I mean if you truly love someone distance or anything else shouldnt really matter. About him not contacting you would be maybe he is hurt you know i would totally be happy to lose all contact with my ex, but I am too much of a nice guy to do that. He is trying to move on and forget about you and I bet its really tough for him. I know how you feel cuz thats pretty much how i felt when my ex called it off. Soo all I can say is just talk and talk some more. Oh and remind him the reason he fell for you in the first place and all the good times you guys had and all that stuff. You know tell him that you want this and you want to make this work.
take care and good luck
2007-01-17 22:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your career more important than him and although he said he was cool with it, he found out he really isn`t. If he really was so sweet why did you put the relationship in jeopardy by going away...long distance relationships never work...someone is going to feel neglected because they are not part of that person`s life anymore...and telling them about what you are doing only makes it worse. Life goes on when people are apart so change is inevitable. Move on, it is over.
2007-01-17 22:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wrote: "My bf and I were having a long distance relationship. I have just left him for my career two months ago."
Long distance relationships end when young.
Get the book called "The Missing Piece" it's a children's book but a reminder what not to do in relationships and to yourself so that you can be the best you can be.
I'm shaking my head right now with disbelief over your consideration of dropping your career for him. For your sake, I truly hope you complete your career.
2007-01-17 22:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go to where he is and surprise him, if he is feeling neglected. On that note though do not be too surprised if he has already found someone else. I think with most guys it is out of sight out of mind if it is a long dis relationship. I have been in one before and though we are really good friends now it just never would have worked. You can not do LDR's that good. Think about it. If you 2 really love each other you will make it work. Do not throw away your career if you don't have to.
2007-01-17 22:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Darling girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he met someone else? Why did you leave him for your career? A relationship cannot work without investing the time sweetheart. Perhaps he thought he could do long distance but realized he can't. You should write him a letter if you can't call him and pour your heart out to him. If he still wants to call it quits, move on honey. You will survive. I wish you the best.
2007-01-25 16:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Luvly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry kiddo, the guy said and I quote "I don't feel the same anymore". Don't give up your career. there are a lot of fish in the sea. If you need closure, write him a letter and ask him to please reply why his feelings have changed. Perhaps he had already or has just met someone new. In my experience long distance never works. Take care Heather
2007-01-25 22:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is very painful for you and that you're in denial, but from all that you've told us, you need to let him go, hon. I'm really sorry. He's probably met someone else. The good thing is that he's being upfront and honest in telling you that it's over. If you really love him, then let him go. Then take time to heal your heart and move forward.
2007-01-17 22:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all no guy should break up with a girl through a letter and maybe you should call him and see what the problem is..Also ask him what you dont understand about him if you do indeed think you understand where he is coming from i hope i help that is the best i can do
2007-01-17 22:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably just misses you a lot and decided he needs to move on because he cant live missing you. sorry hun=(
2007-01-17 22:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by xo_devv_xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋