we are having a hard time with her. she lives with her mom but deep down she knows she should live with us. her mom lets her do what ever she wants. she doesn't ever follow curfew and has alcohol in the car and has done numerous amounts of drugs and has sex with multiple partners and shes only 17. she has ran away from her mothers and i found her and her mom didn't even have the couresty to say thank you.
we love her but when you call you dad nothing but a sperm donor and a MF'r and an A'hole, what else can you do. we have tried everything. i need an outside opinion.
thank you
2007-01-17 14:14:46 · 4 answers · asked by TROUBLE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Would you like her to come live with you? (If so, you are like step mom of the year)
Also, do you have proof that she's done any of these things? If so, your husband should petition the court for full custody. I don't know if it will work, but it might.
Then, if you are able to get her in to your home, know you are in for a bumpy ride that should start with family counciling... often... mainly for her, but it wouldn't hurt for her father to go, too... if only to learn how to better deal with the situation.
Good Luck!
2007-01-17 14:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tiff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dealing with her nicely like say though I am ur stepmom I do care about u & explain to her the consequences of drinking alcohol,drugs & sex with different guys..If she doesnt listen thn try bringing her to the rehab to c how people suffer from doing all these then only she might learn.If she calls her own dad all those,u have every rights to stop her from doing it,try talking to her & ask her y is she doing this?
2007-01-17 22:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Gurlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing from the position of having your heads up your butts. If she is that disrespectful, you are in denial that "deep down" she wants to live with you. Tell her to shape up or stay with her mother. There is no reason why you should be enabling her bad behavior. Be parents instead of door mats.
2007-01-17 23:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being patient and allowing her to live with the consequences of her actions, "enabling" her by giving her money or emotional support while she is engaging in self destructive behavior is not helping her, better for her to "hit bottom" and you have some reserves of emotion and love to help her at that point, set firm limits (money for college is reimbursed when classes passed, that sort of thing) sorry for no easy answers
2007-01-17 22:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋