My boyfriend and I have been going out for 10 months. When we started going out, he was always paying attention to me alot and I really love how he has that energetic spark everytime he looks at me and he paid alot when we went out. Now he is in a debt and it is partially my fault. I paid sometimes, and I feel really bad now. Our relationship was on the line, and he blamed me for the whole debt. Now everytime we go out, I have to pay on my behave and starting to pay for his foods as well. When we see each other, we don't have that spark as much and we don't talk as much either. I feel like I don't get that attention anymore. I don't know what to do anymore, can anyone give me some advice on what to do?
Thanks =)
2007-01-17 14:13:19 · 17 answers · asked by lil_angel_ztar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, we did talk it over and I asked him if I'm being considerate of helping out, and he said yes because I am helping out alot now. I do see him everyday, but its going to stop when we go back to school.
If I ask him about the topic again, he is going to get mad again, and I don't want him to be. Sometimes I feel mad because the little things he use to do, he kind of stop. Such as getting a flower, etc. I know he loves me, but I don't know if he is starting to lose feelings for me now.
2007-01-17 14:36:27 · update #1
Talk to him and ask him.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 14:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds to be a little resentful and childish and if you really want to work it out then you have to be open with each other. If you are ready to move on then don't put it off any longer because it will not improve things to stay in a relationship that is sinking.
Good Luck
2007-01-17 22:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by LS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your bf is an *** hole he really shouldnt say that thats just mean no guys should blame the. and if you guys where really gonna go in to debt adn he knew it he should have just askle you not o go eat out so much and maybe you two could have a home meal or something cook together then eat and watch a movie that also very romantic .. but he was just being a n *** no guy should say that to a girl ,.
2007-01-17 22:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by sososoriya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hey maybe he did spent alot of money and maybe he does need some of your help ...i feel if you offer him to pay for some stuff maybe he will see that you were not only after his money...he is having pressure right now and its hard to give attention to you if he feels maybe he was used a bit...well let me say its not really your fault it is his for spending what he did so maybe you can talk to him tell that you care and offer to pay for things sometimes but also tell him that you will not be the one paying for u two he must also...good luck take care
2007-01-17 22:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, go back to school, get a good job and get out of debt. Money = Life. Remember that and you'll always be happy.
Oh and tell him the same. Maybe you'll meet up again when you're both rich.
2007-01-17 22:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by senior07 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u really luv him,help him,get back the spark that u once had together,don't just blaming everything on him or on ur self..ur a couple, n a couple who luv each other must help each other..
n remember, if u can pass this, u two will be happy one day..
2007-01-17 22:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by LiquidSilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it really depends he just needs time alone to deal with what he has gotten himself into try to cook at home and not go out as much try to save money and save a relationship ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel he just needs time to think and guys need that sometimes
2007-01-17 22:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tamara Loves Kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit and talk, I mean its better to just ask him whats wrong and the spark is gone probably because he is under stress. So talk to him ask him how you can help.
take care
2007-01-17 22:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I pay for me and my girlfriend when we go out too, but I never blame my girlfriend , however it's nice that you're paying sometimes.
try to see each other less often. maybe you two just see each other too much.
2007-01-17 22:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by TimTim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seeing each other everyday can really affect a relationship, try to give each other some space
2007-01-17 22:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same as Jez but if you have to ask then there lies the problem either with your insecurity or with him not really loving you. Sorry.
2007-01-17 22:16:57 · answer #11 · answered by Songbird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋