ok i am 20 and the guy i am dating is 27. my mom has a problem with it but my grandmother does not c the problem she says " age does not determine a mature man" so what should i do i am confused my mom is upset and wont talk to me but then again i am 20 and my 3rd year in collage a pre-med student and i am a virgin its not like i am going to marry the kid i mean we get along and we have great time together. so coming from parents is a really a problem i mean half of the adults i know are 10 ^ there wifes and there parents had a problem but they got over it. what should i do?
2007-01-17 14:05:16 · 32 answers · asked by melissa f 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
give your mum a little space to get over it.
it seems she still sees you as her baby and is trying to be protective of you and she obviously doesn't want to see you get hurt
but she needs to see that you are an adult capable of making adult choices. a 7 year gap is no big thing so you just get on and enjoy your relationship, and let her come to terms with it in her own time.
2007-01-17 21:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a parents choice after the age of eighteen and by the way after eighteen you are considered an adult and no rules regarding sexual relations apply anymore. 7 years is not an age gap anyway so i do not see the point. Any relationship between a ten year period is in the same generation. Obviously I am not talking here about the fact that someone 25 should date someone16, that is not the same thing and is legally not acceptable. Personally I don't think age has anything to do with it, mom's have a hard time accepting anyone with thier daughter. I think you just need to give her some time, she will come around eventually and if she doesnt you could talk to her and say it really isnt her choice. If your mom is going to control this part of your life and you dont take a stand now, she will end up controlling more of it in the future.
2007-01-17 14:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by CelticFairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to go to jail for statutory rape? At his age, and because of her age, this would be a felony and not a misdemeanor. A minor can date an adult in certain circumstances (like she's 17 and he is 19), but he isWAY too old for her. Also, he's a 21year old hot blooded male. He WILL want sex at some point and should date women his own age. what 21 year old wants a rape case on his hands -real or invented- if something goes sour. All he'd have to do is break up with her and she can call the cops because she's bitter and desperate. I also don't know what a GROWN MAN would want to do with a TEENAGED GIRL! Do guys that age really want to talk about 10th grade math problems and Justin Bieber?he'd be a taxi driver and a father figure, not a partner. At her age, she has NOTHING to offer other than a warm body and he can't even legally touch that.
2016-05-24 02:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many answers already...holy cow.
First, you are 20, your mother should stay out of your relationships, but then again she is a mother and you can't reason with them. My mother was the same, I was 20 and my girlfriend was 27, The stuff I had to listen to from my mother was rediculous, She didn't stop trying to run my life ever.
But I got married when I was 22, My wife was 29, But it probably won't last, cause it has only been 37 years (yes Married in 1970)
Still married, Still glad I did. You have to live with the decision, not your mom
2007-01-17 14:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by bob shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it would be a huge deal if you were under eighteen and dating a 27 year old, now that you're an adult, it doesn't matter. In my opinion. As long as you two love eachother, I don't see the problem in it. My sister is 23 and she's with a 32 year old. Age isn't anything but a number.
2007-01-17 14:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your mom needs to get over it. You are 20 and not living at home. You are old enough to be responsible for your own actions by law. As for the age difference, so what. I was once engaged to a man 11 yrs older than I. The only reason I didnt marry him is because he wanted a person to clean like mommy. I wouldnt so we didnt. If you are comfortable with dating an older man than do it.
2007-01-17 14:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by mcdermond3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 - even though they are your parents you are an adult - make your own choices. I dated and ended up marrying a guy 5 years older than me and have never regreted it - 7 years is not that big a deal. Your mom just doesn't know how to let go.
Have fun, and be careful - it is your life
2007-01-17 14:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Traveler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably worried that you might not finish college and go on to med school. Maybe she needs to be reassured that you and this man are friends, but that you still have your same plans for the future (assuming that is the case). On the other hand, you are an adult, and you no longer have to answer to your mom. It is now your decision. One of the hardest parts of growing up is having to take personal responsibility for your own decisions and not depending on your parents to tell you if it's right or wrong.
2007-01-17 14:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by someone's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and can make your own choices. 7 years isn't nearly as bad as some of these 15 year differences in couples now days. Ask your mom to respect your wishes seeing as you are grown and if she raised you as well it seems, you wont do anything utterly stupid. Give her your evidence as to why she should trust you in a mature way and if she doesn't step back and at least think about your arguments then I guess you are between a rock and hard place: do you make your mother mad or go with your own wishes? I hope she gives you your freedom!
2007-01-17 14:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think, at age 20, that mom is a little out of line deciding who her daughter should or should not date. A 20-year-old daughter is a grown woman. While mom is certainly entitled to her opinion, I think that once she's expressed what she thinks, it's time to back off. If mom sees something specific that she's concerned about, then she should speak up, but it's STILL the daughter's decision as to who she will date.
2007-01-17 14:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! You're only 20 and dating a 27 year old? What a cradle robber you have for a boyfriend. Thats a HUGE differance in age. You should listen to your mom and stop dating him right now. He is obviously dating you because he just wants to strip you of your virginity. He wants to strip you of all your dignity and leave you a shell of your former self. Not!!
Actually, if you love him and see a future for the two of you stay with him. Savor those moments together. Build memories together that will last a lifetime. Congratulations on saving your virginity. May the two of you have a long and happy relationship.
2007-01-17 14:32:06 · answer #11 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋