ok so basically my girlfriend and i have been together 3 weeks. ( i know short time or wtever) I am 16 she is 15 and basically we started dating after New years when i got back from vacation. we only had one date though and i asked her out cause i knew she liked me and i knew i liked her. Since that time we have hung out every fri sat sun and normally 2 days after school so we are really close. Today she told me she wants a break because when i asked her she wasnt ready and she has to think about stuff. she sent me this in a message this night (she told me today at her house) "i jst honestly need sometime . . its not a postponement to dump u er ne thing... its jst...i relle do i dont wnna hardcore brk up with you bc i dont want u to forget about me. . ."
so basically what is she thinking? is she gonna get back with me?
2007-01-17 13:50:03 · 11 answers · asked by chris d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yea she also still wants to hang out and stuff alot (we got to different schools)
2007-01-17 13:51:52 · update #1
to the people saying find another girl well this girl is special to me even though i havent known her for long.
2007-01-17 13:58:28 · update #2
CHRIS-
HI I AM ONE OF THOSE REALLY COOL MOMS THAT ALOT OF MY 20 YEAR OLD SON'S FRIENDS COME TO FOR ADVISE...OK HERE GOES
STOP TRYING TO FIGURE OUT GIRLS....IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN....IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT THIS GIRL....GIVE HER THE SPACE SHE NEEDS BUT BE AWARE....TO MUCH SPACE USUALLY MEANS THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE BUT NOT ALWAYS. SHE IS VERY YOUNG STILL AND MAY HAVE HAD HER HEART BROKEN PREVIOUSLY....WITHOUT KNOWING IT IS HARD TO SAY. IF SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT BROKE HER HEART AND SHE REALLY DOES LIKE YOU....SHE IS GOING THROUGH THE STAGE OF FEAR.....NOT GETTING WHAT SHE WANTS OR LOSING WHAT SHE ALREADY HAS (YOU) OR MAYBE SHE IS 15 AND WORRIED HER PARENTS WOULDN'T WANT HER GETTING SERIOUS. THE IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER IS THAT YOU CAN BE UNDERSTANDING BUT MAKE SURE YOU GIVE BOUNDARIES AND STICK TO THEM....IF SHE REALLY CARES TIME WILL MAKE THAT OBVIOUS, IF SHE DOESN'T RETURN CALLS OR STARTS AVOIDING YOU, SIMPLY ASK HER STRAIGHT OUT IF SHE FEELS THE FRIENDSHIP YOU HAVE TOGETHER IS NOT WORTH RISKING BY GETTING SERIOUS. IF SHE SAYS YES....LET GO AND MOVE ON....KEEP THE FRIENDSHIP BUT CONTINUE LOOKING FOR SOMEONE THAT IS "RIGHT" FOR YOU, SHE'S OUT THERE! I PROMISE!
PS
FOR WHATEVER REASON PEOPLE (ME INCLUDED) DO NOT LIKE BEING SMOTHERED...IF YOU PERSIST HER IN KNOWING "WHY?" SHE WILL PROBABLY BACK AWAY FURTHER.....LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND STAY OUT OF THE RESULTS...THAT IS WHAT THE BIG GUY UPSTAIRS IS FOR.
2007-01-17 14:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by JULIA T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehehe I got an experience about that. She's not ready for a commitment, what she needs is someone to hang out together and she's still unsure wether she wanted a relationship with you. You can try to convince her that you're the one that she wanted, and without commitment, both of you can get nowhere. If she insisted, let her go... keep dating her while keep your eyes open.
And while you're dating her, dont give her a safe feeling that you will be dating her and only her, always give her a hanging answer when she asked you. One day when she wanted you so much that she doesn't wanna lose you, she'll ask you out, or at least give you the hint that she wanted a relationship.
2007-01-17 13:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Alastair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that since she still wants to hang out, she is still interested. I know when I was 15 I was always confused about dating. Things are just really hard on girls at that age, if she tells you she doesnt want to really, truely, break up, then she probably doesnt. Just give her time, and things should eventually work out. If they dont, then it obviously wasnt meant to be.
Dont sweat it though, she is probably just confused. With time, she'll come around.
2007-01-17 13:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
both of u r too young to decide abt ur future. nothing wrong in waiting for sometime. use this break period to test if u could stand rigid, never matter whatever comes. both of u can concentrate on ways to come up in life.
if even after that break period, both of u remain the same, go ahead, surely golden future awaits u!
2007-01-17 22:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, basically a "break" is just a break-up without the big confrontation. It gives you hope that the "break" will one day be over so you act nice during the "break"-up. Find another girl.
2007-01-17 14:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys are so young but i know when I ask for a break we usually end up just being friends.... some people are better being just friends rather than being in a relationship
2007-01-17 13:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Miss E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's how she writes you need to get a smarter girlfriend.
2007-01-17 13:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young........find another girl!
2007-01-17 13:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dairy Fairy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU NEED A SMARTER ONE.
2007-01-17 17:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on dude,, its over....
2007-01-17 13:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by killer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋