okay so I am 17 and i work with a guy who is 21. He seems to like me and is flirty. i catch him looking at me sometimes. we talk a lot and get along well. i'm hesitant about it because i'm not positive he likes me and he's older than i am. i really like him a lot but i don't know if he feels the same about me.
i'm pretty sure that he's not for the whole relationship tihng right now. he likes the friends with benefits deal. i enjoy that too but i want a relationship more than "fwb."
we have been alone together on more than one occasion but we have never kissed.
one other problem is he is one of my good friends' cousins.
what should i do? should i ask him out or see how he feels or what??
2007-01-17 13:30:20 · 25 answers · asked by Mhmm. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BF tend to come and go, true friends are hard to find. If you date him, how could it impact your friendship with your "good friend".
You seem to be impressed that he is checking you out more than you having an interest in him.
Also, with the age difference - he's (21-17 = 4) 4 years older than you. What if the situation was reversed? Would you (still 17) be interested in a boy who was 4 years younger than you? How much in common would you have with the 13 year old, or would you be using your greater maturity to just play with him?
I had a woman do that to me. I was in my first apartment and she would flirt, but no do anything with me (no dates, nothing). But if her BF didn't come over at night (he was married) she would come to my apt and flirt with me but would occasionally look out the window for him. If he didn't show up by midnight, then she wanted to have sex with me. I told her to get lost, I didn't like standing in line.
2007-01-17 13:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by John Hightower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a virgin, don't even think about it, you know all he wants is the panties. That's so old it's cliche...and if your not a virgin,STILL DON'T THINK ABOUT IT. You have said that you want MORE...first caution sign...he doesn't want more, he wants punani. If you are willing to just give punani and not try to make him like you, be your boyfriend, and stay with you, GO RIGHT AHEAD...But if you want him emotionally,if you want him to be around after he's hit it.. you are setting yourself up for certain destruction sweetie...take it from a girl who knows, i'm 17 too...been there done that. And if you ain't a virgin, you've probably already been hurt. Oh, and his age doesn't mean a darn thing except he can go to jail...and he's more skilled at getting what he wants...the concept is the same no matter the age difference.
2007-01-17 13:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by jitwitit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this passage, the English be conscious "church' is the Greek be conscious "EKKLESIA", which skill a 'suggested as out team'. The church has continuously been defined a physique of believers regardless of the place they met, how often they met or how lots of them met (as long because it became a minimum of two or 3). The extensive-unfold church is the inhabitants of all believers. The community church is a localized team of believers. What i detect finest approximately this passage is how we are meant to handle somebody which could no longer be reconciled - Like a heathen and a tax collector. If we seem at how Jesus taken care of all those human beings, we see that we are to love them (see Zacheeus and another heathen that Jesus got here into touch with). You ofter pay attention this verse taught that different believers ought to shun the only that's no longer repentant, particularly it might seem to me that we are to circulate out of our thank you to love that distinctive for the point of reconciling them to the physique.
2016-12-12 14:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not out of HS, forget it. You guys are on 2 different planets with 2 different set of goals. You want a good time and so does he but he wants the benefits without ANY commitment. You would become a mere notch on his belt. . . not a good idea.
2007-01-17 13:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u are mature and he feels it can work then do it i am going through the same thing my guy is 27 and i am 20 but thats just 7 years. and we have a great realtionship but they will always be that thought behind ur mind if it will work beacuse ur not leagal honestly if u think u can uphold this realtionship then go for it girl
2007-01-17 13:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by melissa f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart is a age that is heard because your not a little girl. you a beautiful young woman. the guy at all age like to look at.and when someone pay Athena to us it make us feel good .and that ok.really he to old for you .at 21 for a guy thay won't to play the fild.so stag with your own age and let the guys your age injoy you.
2007-01-17 13:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by micki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let HIM ask YOU.
It gives him respect as being "the man" and you respect in yourself for being a lady.
If he doesn't ask you, just enjoy your friendship on a platonic (non-sexual) level for now.
You're young...be patient. No one knows what the future holds.
P.S.
the others are right...until you're 18...no man should even touch you. It's considered statutory rape...and I'll bet he knows it.
2007-01-17 13:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think the age difference is bad. he might be nervous since you're under 18, and that can get a bit illegal (obviously recommending that you dont let it get illegal) but the main thing here is that you dont do anything youre uncomfortable with. if you want a real relationship, and he just wants to be friends with benefits, dont do something you dont want to do just cause you dont want to lose him. it's not going to be worth it.
2007-01-17 15:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by thigh_high_fishnets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you, go for it. The age difference does not matter..as long as you wait to do anything "naughty" until you at 18.
2007-01-17 13:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dairy Fairy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a year or 6 months til your bday cus no dude wants to serve any jail time behind some young tail. cus then he'll be known as sex offender regardless if u said it was consensual
2007-01-17 13:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋