do parents want their adult children to live at home?

Question

i have lots of friends who are in their 20's and 30's still living with parents, do you think the parents actually enjoying the company? the children pay some bills like electricity or water

Answer 1

no but as a parent they feel obligated to do for their children

Answer 2

I'm an Empty-Nesting Single Retiree .. and for me .. the answer is NO!!!! I do NOT want my now Adult children RETURNING to MY HOME yet again ... and living in the home one more time.

I was a Long Term Single Parent (had a short disaster of a marriage to an abusive/violent ex), and yes, I did raise them ALONE, solely on MY INCOME .. and yes, their teen years were series of their hormones raging, they were very tough on my HOME and me (personally), and they made some poor choices too (along with some good ones ...).

I am ENJOYING the FREEDOM that I dreamed so many, many years about .. I am enjoying having only one load of laundry every 2-3 days (instead of 3-4 a day), I am enjoying miniscule grocery bills (instead of having to COOK, clean, feed all those 'others' that just assumed they could 'help themselves' to everything in my pantry/fridge/freezers), and that is just the tip of the iceberg.

I am enjoying the PEACE and QUIET ... the ability to know that when I come home after a long day, that MY HOME is exactly the way I left it (and nothing is missing, stolen, 'borrowed' or gone ...).

I think that IF the parent can sit down with their ADULT children, work up a contract, have written UNDERSTANDING of the rules of Coming Back to the Parent's Home (curfews, no sleep-overs, pay your bills on time, no nastiness to the homeowner, HELP with the chores, etc ....), then on a TEMPORARY Basis (yes, like a month or two), then MAYBE.

Answer 3

1. How old are they? 19, almost 20 2. Are they in college or do they have a job or do they just sit around? In school, trade school. No job but there is much more to that then at first glance. Prior to his surgery about a year ago he did work. 3. Do you make them pay for anything? Not at this point but we also don't buy his wants. 4. Do you give them a curfew? 11:00 on school nights, midnight or a call before 9:00 to let us know he won't be home. 5. Do they have a boyfriend or girlfriend? And if so, do you allow them to sleep over? Yes and no, he has had a few of them over the last year but nothing steady. No, he is not allowed to let them sleep over. 6. Why does your adult child still live at home? Series of accidents and injuries over the last three years. Keep derailing his forward advancement. He is now starting from about where he was at 16. 7. Do you find it stressful? Yes, The car accidents may have been avoided, the broken hand could have been avoided, the broken ankle couldn't have been but it took two years before the decided he needed surgery. That period of time changed the kid for the worse, depression and such. One moment you want to slap him upside the head and the next you're telling yourself that at least he is moving forward. 8. Does your adult child have any learning or physical difficulties e.g. dyslexia, disabled Nothing permanent but the hand got broken in January and he wasn't allowed to even remove the splint until mid august. It's a bit difficult to work a trade with only one hand, . He had been in a boot for the ankle until Dec.

Answer 4

As a parent of adult children, as much as I love them, I do NOT want them to live at home. Adult children should be on their own so their parents can have privacy and their own life back. When adult children are home, parents feel responsible for them in every way the same as when they were small. It's a lot of added stress and work.

Answer 5

I think it is fine to live with parents when you are in your 20's and 30's. If your parent are fine with the idea, go ahead but know that one day you will be responsible for more then just electricity and water

Answer 6

I have been there, and I can tell you from experience they do like it to an extent. When the kids leave the nest the parents are upset yes but they adapt and are used to the "freedom" they once had before they even had kids. I am out of my parents house now and they tell me they did not enjoy it. I did not either because they still treated me like I was 15.

Answer 7

From a parent NO HELL NO, the best thing a child can do for a parent is get out there and prove what you've been telling us all along, That you know and all and don't need us.

Answer 8

No they will make you carzy when you got home some children even make a party when you go home it like a lot of thing to clean up

Answer 9

Maybe some do but i dont i like to live my life the way i want. I like my privacy.

Answer 10

..i would love for my son to live at home, but if he did, i would feel like he wasnt able to fend for himself and mature into a nice, responsible young man..(but that is just me)