Well in our household we are all Christians and don't believe in having sex before marriage because God states so in the Bible, but she went out and had sex...and get this!...with an 18 yr old sophomore in high school male, who is also a member of our church. Don't get me wrong he is VERY intelligent when it comes down to the Bible and Church (i mean he literally knows the Bible back and front!) and he also wants to be a Pastor when he gets older...but what he did went against the teachings of God, so wouldn't that make him a hypocrite?! i mean i know we ALL make mistakes sometimes...but this is DIFFERENT right?!..i really don't know...i just get upset whenever i see her...she doesn't even communicate with the family after what happened...and my dad didn't really talked to her about what she did...apparently he is uncomfortable about these things! and my mom is always trying to talk about it with her, but she just ignores it...how should i react and what should i do??
2007-01-17 12:27:59 · 40 answers · asked by Jenn h 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The most important thing that you can do is to learn from your sister's mistakes. Even a mistake in judgement is a mistake. Now, she will have to explain to her husband to be why her virginity wasn't important enough to save for him. She will have to admit to her children that she made a big mistake in judgement or lie to them when they ask her if she was a virgin when she married their daddy. She will have to lie to other guys she dates about whether or not she is a virgin or she will have to fight them and make excuses why she won't put out for them. There are so many more problems in store for your sister that she has no idea of--not to mention the fact that she can no longer maintain a clean conscience before God. Yes, it was hypocritical of both your sister and the young man and it has obviously hurt her relationship with every single member of your family. Just don't follow in her footsteps--keep your way straight before God and man. Also, however, remember that you will make your own mistakes and be loving and forgiving when it comes right down to it.
2007-01-17 12:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A person isnt a hypocrite for making a mistake or commiting a sin. A real hypocrite is one that KEEPS on sinning and tries to cover it up by using righteouness as a cloak to cover their secret life of sin. Dont get mad at her, but instead love her. The mear fact that she had sex outside of marriage is a sign that she may have been looking for intimacy that only God can give her. She needs love, attention, acceptance, and REAL INTIMACY that can only come from God, not sex. There is nothing wrong with sex, but everything has its time and place, and God will bless that act when it is done within the institiution of marriage. Correct her with the word of God, not your opionion, not emotion, but the word of God.
2007-01-17 12:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by SonicCube123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should realize that all of us will fall short of God's glory and let your sister know that you love her. It isn't up to you to take God's place as her judge. Instead of feeling angry, the appropriate response is to feel sorry for her. She gave in to the natural longings of her flesh and now she can never present herself to her future husband as a chaste virgin who has saved herself for her life long partner. That's bad enough. She doesn't need the members of her family to become her enemies. Instead she needs your prayers and loving support of her as a sister who had a fall. As it is written:
Galatians 6:1 Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.
The Devil would like nothing better than for your sister to feel alienated and to lead her into even worse acts because she felt like she had already "blown it" and her family didn't resepct her anymore, so why should she respect herself. As a Christian sister you need to come along side her and let her know that while you are disappointed in what happened you want to always be there for her and to help her from falling again. Your parents should be doing the same thing.
2007-01-17 12:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Martin S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God doesnt' judge until we are dead, so why should you? Let her sins be her sins. No its not different, we all make mistakes, and honestly who's to say she made a mistake at all. Yes the bible says wait, but it also goes on to say women are property. We don't live by these rules in society anymore. She is an adult, she can make her own decisions and face those consequences herself. You will make a mistake one day that you will probably regret, wouldn't it be nice if your sister was there to help you through it with her experiences?
2007-01-17 12:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's her life, why would you get mad at her. christ was many times blasted by the pharisees (spelling??) for who he ministered to b/c he often ministered to people that the pharisees saw as unholy, much like you see you sister right now. also, generally speaking christ didn't come out and preach fire and brimstone to sinners rather offered them love and understanding. your sister made a mistake, can you say that you never have done the same, since all sin is the same in god's eyes (there being only one unpardonable sin) wouldn't you be a bit of hypocryte to crucify your sister or perspective pastor about this. maybe you should just tell her you love her and that you're there for her if she would LIKE to talk about it.
2007-01-17 12:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by David W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should react the same way you always have towards your sister.what she did was her chose.remember in the bible ther are more places that warns you not to judge anything. even Jesus stopped the people from stoning a woman because of issue .he said "let the person who is without sin cast the first stone" nobody could. love,compasion,and forgiveness are far more important hope this helps you
2007-01-17 12:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let it go...First off If you believe the bible you should believe it when it says, Judge not lest ye be judged first. I mean seriously If you believe in God then you know that he is the only one who can judge and last but not least The bible is not real...The sins in the bible are only Sins if you let them.
2007-01-17 13:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 - its none of your business.
2 - assuming they are both 18, they can legally do whatever they want.
3 - if you want to be her mummy, then you go right ahead and tell her how to live her life. She will thank you for it - not.
4- if she ignores you - thats her choice and you cant do nothing about it.
2007-01-17 13:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It also says not to pass judgement in the Bible, but to set an example. Perhaps if you abstain, your sister will see how many less problems you have and she will follow your example. I am not Christian, but familliar with the Bible.
2007-01-17 12:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by Heather m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that God is the judge. He also said we are to love one another. God is aware that we are human and will not be able to live a sinless life. Pray about the situation, pray for guidance but also show your sister that you love her. You can be dissappointed in someone but still love them.
2007-01-17 12:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by lynnaper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋