Alright my name is Alex I'm desperate some other girl likes my boyfriend how can I just walk up to her and tell her in a mature way to like back off and stop trying to get him and she knows I go out with him just please someone help me before I smack her PLEASE!
2007-01-17 12:07:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh my god, tell that boyfriend-robbing slapper to just... simply back off because he is your boyfriend and you'd appreciate it if she stayed off your property. if she doesn't then...i'd say smack her gently HAHA tell her go find some SINGLE man to like rather than your boyfriend. god i hate girls who do thattttttttttt
2007-01-17 13:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kitty, it's your other halfs job to get rid of her... or at least make it clear he's with you, and not for the picking.
Perhaps give him a scenario... you know, "honey, supposing someone was hitting on you, what would you do?" and viceversa, "what would you say if I told you someone was trying to hit on my...?"
Evaluate the answers, and follow through. Also, it depends how long you've been togetherl; early stages are tough, and it's just a case of sitting tight till you and your partner are an established mark, and 'she' will start looking like an idiot, because everyone will know who he's Really with.
Good luck!
P.S. Don't be too possessive, and more self-confident, it can really knock the guys back a bit... they want the confident you they fell in love with, not the nagging/possessive person you 'may' seem to be turning in to.
2007-01-17 12:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by M.E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to her and tell her in a mature way to like back off and stop trying to get him because she knows you go out with him.
See what I did there??
2007-01-17 12:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say be frank with her. Tell her to back off and go find her own man, to leave yours alone. That you wont have any woman steppin on your toes. No point in beating around the bush. It never got me anywhere. Being straight is always the best option in my opinion. If she takes your advice and moves on, great. If she continues, its a direct disrespect to you and its time to show her you were serious. Give her a good thump and she will get the picture. Good luck.
2007-01-17 12:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest , its not up to you , its up to your boyfriend to say no to her advances.What is gonna happen if someone else you dont know about starts hitting on him after you ve got rid of this first girl ?, you might as well sit back and trust your boyfriend to do the right thing and tell her to back off.
2007-01-17 12:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation once with a girl. She had this bloke who was supposedly a friend, then i found out he had been her **** buddy and she still wanted to keep in touch with him even after she said she didnt want sex with him anymore. She said he was a good friend to chat to but he would text her saying he wanted her and stuff like that i would get so mad at her for it and want her to tell him to get lost, but she never could do that she said she would just ingore him and that if she really did want him she would be with him and not me. It just got me more and more wound up and in the end brought out such a horrible side of me cause i wanted to make her tell him, and ended up trying to force something that really wasnt there with us.
What i am trying to say is two things. 1. Dont let the jealousy eat you up and make you into a bad person. I expect you have, as i do, strong opinions on the way you should act, like if you know someone is with someone then steer clear. etc. But not all of us are as caring and mindful like that. So please dont let this girl/woman bring you down to her level rise above it as you have your man at the minute or 2. If it really is upsetting you to the point that you could be brought to her level, then does your Boyfrined really care for your feelings that much to allow you to be brought down by her. If he really does care for you and really does love you, he will go out of his way to show you he isnt interested in her and wants you. If he cannot do this for you, then please girl run and run quickly, cause he is not right for you if he cannot accept your needs and feelings he will never.
I hope this helps you. Good luck in whatever you do.
2007-01-17 12:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Westley K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lower yourself to that. Keep your man happy and if he loves you he will tell her to back off. It will mean a lot more coming from you boyfriend. That's the mature thing to do.
2007-01-17 12:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem no matter how much you want to smack her or have ago dont it will only cause problems between you and your partner, then she has won . Talk to you partner say your not happy and if he loves you like he says he does he will tell her he aint intersted it worked for me.
2007-01-18 06:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, all you can do is maybe drop a hint,but at the end of the day, if your b/f is gay then he won't want that girl or any other girl put your claws away sister.Any way she will found out soon enough when your b/f tells her that he is in to boys not women,grow up !!
2007-01-17 12:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well just smack her and tell her if you come any closer you will get more of this plus a lil extra girlfriend wake up you are assumming until you have facts leave her alone he might be giving her signals have some class if he is your man he will decline the invite from her
2007-01-17 12:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋