I am the orchestra director and he is the choir director at the same high school. It just happened over the weekend, and I learned about it through the band director. Since he didn't say anything directly to me, I don't know if I should make a gesture, But then again, I want him to know that I care about him and hope he is able to work through it for himself. Any ideas?
2007-01-17 12:00:56 · 9 answers · asked by Kate 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i wouldn't take this situation head on if that's what you're thinking. you might ask him "how have you been lately" or just say, "you know you've been on mind lately and i hope everything is okay" and see if he'll open up to you. if you speak directly about it not only will you most likely bring up something he may not want to talk about right now but you'll also out your friend who shared the information. however, if you get him to think of you as a confidant he may be more willing to discuss it in a relaxing manner where you might be able to offer more support.
2007-01-17 12:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by David W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation he may not have mentioned it because it may hurt him a bit that he is going through this maybe just leave him a short and simple note or drop in the odd comment when you see him next saying you heard about it and you're really sorry and if he needs anything your more than happy to help.
Make it short and sweet nothing too deep and over the top I'm sure he'd probably appreciate a good natured comment.
2007-01-17 20:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest- say "I have heard you've had some sadness, and I just want to say I hope things work out for the best for you- I care."
Leave it at that. You don't have to specify what you heard, how you heard- but if you can see a fellow staffer is in pain and you have a cordial relationship, it is entirely appropriate to acknowledge his pain, offer support and give encouragement.
If he wants to talk, he will. If he doesn't, he will thank you and end the discussion. Keep it short and sincere.
Good luck. You are a kind person.
2007-01-17 20:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by CYP450 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't say anything to you I don't think it's appropriate for you to bring it up. If he does bring it up, a response to the effect of "I'm really sorry to hear that." is appropriate.
A gift or more forward gesture is not appropriate...unless you want to get him in the sack.
How is someone a "good aquaintance"?
2007-01-17 20:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not do anything. You will get caught up in it, because emotions can really take over when something so drastic is going on in someones life. Just stand back, and pray for him.
2007-01-17 23:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you heard about the break up with his wife and if he needs to talk to someone tell him your available to talk or if he needs a shoulder to cry on.
2007-01-17 20:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to him without him telling you directly.
He is working through it for himself, without telling you, obviously.
Be there for him when/if he shares it with you. Be patient.
2007-01-17 22:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by ☼High☼Voltage☼Blonde☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say something like, you seem sad/distant/unfocused (whatever come naturally) are you OK? But not - I heard .... etc. it wouldn't be proper.
2007-01-17 20:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes just pray for him and with him remember there is no cupid in you
2007-01-17 20:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋