Everytime I go to a house party or go to a bar I feel layed back most of the time,I just sit there and keep myself to myself,and sometimes I feel paranoid,and I feel like no one has no time for me.
I would really love to blend in,but I just dont know
how. I do feel awful about it,I would love to blend in with everyone. How can I help myself on this?
Please you guys,please give me advise. Thank YYou's. x x x
2007-01-17 11:40:30 · 8 answers · asked by DollyFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was the same.
Socialising takes practise, you just have to throw yourself in there. If you don't feel happy giving an opinion on a subject then just ask questions. It's amazing how often people will interpret someone being interested for being interesting!
Keep at it, and don't do what I do which is start to avoid social situations, then things really do get bad.
Good luck, you'll get over it in time. But it does take effort if you let those paranoid thoughts take over.
:)
2007-01-17 11:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way, and then I started going to smaller bars and I would sit close to where the bar tender would hang around. After a couple of visits he learned my name, and we started talking, he intruduced me to most of the regulars, and now we are all friends, and I blend in well. It just takes soem getting used to and start small and work up the bigger bars, and if you like the bigger bars, take a couple of people you know with you, and that will help the feelings of isolation.
2007-01-17 11:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by angel122202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to feel the exact same way. Until I started talking to people. Sometimes you have to make more effect to talk to someone else. But once I started talking to people everyone started talking to me. Then they started to get to know me and liked me even more. Even the bar tender and I talk a lot. Now when I walk into a bar or a social event everyone greats me and everything is great. I use to get really mad because no one would notice me or talk to me. They acted like I wasn't even there. But all it takes is a little confidence and effort. Good Luck and I hope everything gets better for you. Here's some hugs and kisses for good Luck. xoxoxo
2007-01-17 11:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just hold the wall up go ask a lady to dance and start up a convo while on the floor. Buy her a drink afterward and make small talk. If you don't anyone it is hard to blend in or just jump in a convo. You have to be yourself and then people will like you but they will know if you are fronting and just trying to fit in.
2007-01-17 11:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound introverted. is the energy being taken away from you? i hate parties. too much noise, people, etc. all my energy is drained in seconds. you may simply be over stimulated.
lay off coffee, alchohol, or any uppers. your mind may be doing flips and it doesn't know what to do with itself. or try going to smaller parties.
wear a lampshade, that's popular.
2007-01-17 11:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like you have social anxiety. You should look it up and maybe you'll find some useful tools to get over your paranoia and such in public situations.
2007-01-17 11:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by chris42050 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something exciting. stand up on the counter and start dancing. noooo that wouldnt be a good idea. um try asking someone out. first make sure if they have a wedding ring on and when you ask them out try to ask them if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend.. well hope i helped at all.
2007-01-17 11:45:52 · answer #7 · answered by kaite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a drink and relax a little.....just start mingling....
2007-01-17 11:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chrystie26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋