I fell in love with him before he got married and my feelings won't go away. Mind you it's been 10 years since I feel in love with him. He is not happy in his marriage, but doesn't want to leave for his kids sake. We had a 2 year affair that ended this past August, but we still keep in touch through email. Trust me, I wish I could get over him, but I can't! What should I do????
2007-01-17 11:30:54 · 17 answers · asked by In Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My heart really does go out to you. I was in a similar situation and I understand what it is like for your heart to tell you one thing and your mind tells you another. You have to somehow cut ALL ties to him. It will be very hard at first, but as time moves on it will be easier. You will probably on some level always love him, but you have to love yourself more. I wish you the best.
2007-01-18 02:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by krenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord help you girl. You have got to let it go. I have been there and done that, and i tell ya, karma will bite you in the butt. I would end it, and just tell him that you cant do it anymore. That if his situation changes, for him to contact you first. But until you cut your ties with him, you yourself will never truly give another all of you. This isnt fair to you or your new guy friend. Just chalk it up as the experience and love of a lifetime, and let him be. Nobody said you have to stop loving him, but you need to be true to yourself as well as the next man you enter into a relationship with. I wish you all the luck in the world. Its been 6 years since my situation and i tell ya, i have nothing but fond memories. Its a beautiful thing, but i can give all of myself to another and be thankful that i had a love like that in my lifetime. Some people arent so lucky. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 19:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!! You need to stop all contact with him and that includes email. It takes about 2 years to get over feelings for another person. Even though you are in love with him, he was obviously using you to escape from his unhappiness. You need to respect yourself. Go out and meet other men. You will find someone that is so far much better than the guy you're in love with. If the wife finds out about you, you do not want to be named in the divorce case.
2007-01-17 19:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u kno he's not happy in his marriage, maybe thats just what he's telling you so you wont feel guilty but honestly if he wasnt happy he could file for divorced and still care for his kids, thats just an excuse he's giving to not divorced that other woman n b with you.
you should stop all contact with him n if he looks for you, u should demand for him to divorce first if he wants something intimate with you. give yourself some respect that dont settle to be the chick on the side.
if you really want to get over him, go out n meet new ppl.
2007-01-17 19:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him alone. I'm sure that's not what you want to hear and probably not what you intend to do but it's the right thing. Life is too short and there are more people in this world for you to focus your love and affection/attention on than this one guy. He's cheating on his wife, so he can't be all that anyway.
2007-01-17 19:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do nothing until his marriage is oficially over. I'm sure you can't get over him, and it must hurt to not be with him, but don't ever mess with a married man. It'll never turn out well and it'll always come back to get you. You owe it to him and yourself to let his relationship end naturally. If he was meant to be with you then the marriage will end and he'll be with you. If it doesn't end then it wasn't meant to be.
2007-01-17 19:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out why you are in love with someone that is emotionally unavailable to you. For some reason you are trying to have someone that you cannot have. You need to go to counseling and get your head straight. Stop emailing him this just makes it worse!
2007-01-17 19:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean but its over between yall he has a family in most married couple always fight thats just what they do if i was you go on a vacation
a cruise is the best one or go to japan to the mountains and relax on a tree bed getting a japaneas mausage youll get over him have some fun
2007-01-17 19:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he stays for the sake of his kids, let him, don't let him make you the reason he distroys the lives of his wife and kids.
You would not want your world to crumble in this way.
If he is to distroy the lives of others, he needs no help from you.
Let him do it on his own.
2007-01-17 19:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by luckychicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr Hankey says you need to get your shi t together. A man that betrays his wife and children has no honor.
2007-01-17 19:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋