I was in a play with this guy over the holidays. I was immediately attracted to him, but I thought he was way too old for me. Turns out we're the same age- just he looks and acts very mature. I am also quite mature. We go to different schools. I guess you could call us 'friends.' I just don't know how to proceed toward anything further. I only talk to him through email. Any ways or ideas to help make this go forward? Or should I consider myself 'out of his league' and move on? I can give more details of our personalities or interactions if it would help. Do guys like it when girls ask out or make the first moves?
I asked him to coffee (over email, stupidly), and he said sure, after finals. But I'm still nervous. How do I ask for his number?
I know I've asked this a few times, but the more people who reply, the more confidence I get and the more ideas I get. So keep them coming. Thanks so much to everyone who's helped. It's meant a lot =)
2007-01-17 11:01:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sarah, it's simple. Once finals are officially over, walk up to him, smile, and say, "So, how about we go get that coffee sometime soon?" He will smile back and say "Oh yeah, when do you want to go?"
Or, you can just send him a quick email if you will not see him. Just a quick "How about that coffee? Let me know how to reach you to set a time and date."
Good Luck!
2007-01-17 11:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first clue is you 2 are still in school--young and learning about life and maturity. First off, e mail is relatively new---we used to have to talk face to face...if he's that far away, it will probably be a difficult relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being friends until you bond and get comfortable with each other. NO BIG RUSH and he may already have a girlfriend.. So be cool and take it slow. See what kind of man he is...that takes time and you know it. School may be really important to him--and it should be for you too...organize your priorities---don't mess up in school. When the time is right try again--coffee was a great start--in fact I love a coffee date. I really wish you the best of luck and learn to handle the disappointments that come with this stuff.
2007-01-17 11:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing you don't want to do is to come off too eager. It sounds like you like him a lot, but you don't necessarily want him to know that right off the bat. Guys like the chase. So he already knows now that you want to have coffee with him. The ball is in his court. Let him be the next one to mention it. If he never mentions it again, and you still don't want to take the hint that he might not be interested, then try another approach. Like ask him for help with studying? If he's not interested, unfortunately there's nothing you can really do to force him to ask you out. But hopefully he is interested in you and when finals are over he'll ask you out for coffee. I hope it works out.
2007-01-17 11:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, some guys like it when girls make the first move. You put your self out there, and he accepted the invitation. Now chill, relax and show him what a great catch you are
oh and just simply ask for his number ... if he ask why. Just say the email seems like a cold way to talk to someone. be honest with it, show him your interested
2007-01-17 11:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to play it cool. You are already corresponding via e-mail and continue to do so, therefore, you don't need his phone number yet. He has already agreed to go for 'coffee' after finals so it's not like he doesn't want to see you. He needs to keep his head clear for finals and you need to respect that. Some guys do like the girls to make the first move however they don't like to be pushed. Wait 'til finals are over and then you can make your move. Don't lose a good thing before you actually have it!
Good luck!
2007-01-17 11:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that if you guys do chat over email then you should know something about the stuff he likes .... it could be in the music category , movie category , or all guys favorite sport. then set up a time n place ... it can even be at your house to hear some tunes n order a pizza .... wen u seal the deal u ask him for his number n tell him that you will call him a day b4 the actual meeting to confirm .... i mean u call him 4 that time n after yall chill atleast you can ask him can you call him some time just to chat ? good luck .
2007-01-17 11:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by bandolera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, when you both go out to coffee, if your not too nervous, just say that you really like him and you were wondering if you could get his number. If you really like him try and ask him on a "real date." So you were wondering if you should leave him because he might be out of your league but I think you should try it and if you like him and think he's nice, GO FOR IT! good luck<: If you are too nervous to ask him for his number in person ask him online and tell him you'd like to call him sometime.
2007-01-17 11:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Summerchic1315 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shy, but don't be pushy either. He either is interested or he is not. If he wants to go to coffee, then you never know, he may be. I wouldn't email or anything, I would discuss your situation in person. Discretely ask questions regarding his relationship status, interest in you =), and other things that could show his interest in you. I wouldn't ask him out though, if he is really interested, he will show you one way or another. Take things slow, slower is better long term, at least in my experience.
Good luck!!!!
2007-01-17 11:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by Momma2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made the first move. Now when you go to get coffee, some how just slip it in on him when you're talking. Just say....well I enjoy emailing you, but I'd rather just talk to you...and see what he says. Hope that works.
2007-01-17 11:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously the best way to ask for a number is to give him yours and say we havent had a real conversation in so long so gimme a call then the miracles of caller ID will take over and viola instant number
2007-01-17 11:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Primetime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋