I've been with this person on and off for about a year, but recently I met someone who has caught my interest. Now my feelings for them is becoming deeper and I don't know what I should do.
2007-01-17 10:24:08 · 22 answers · asked by ladyballa_3207 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh just go out with both of them. You know thats what you are wanting someone to tell you.
On a serious note, all you can do, is break it off with the current and see what happens with the new one. One thing about the current boy is that it is obvious that you are looking at other guys...so let him go and get on with his life. That is not fair to him.
2007-01-17 10:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by behr28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how much this will help, but I saw your question and felt a pang. I'm just now at the end of a relationship where my significant other and I were engaged to be married, and she developed and interest in someone else. I'll spare you the details, and skip to what little advice I can offer: I'm on the recieving end of what you're doing to someone else, and I can honestly say, if the someone you're leaving cares about you enough, they will let go. It will hurt, and they may not like it, but they need to be intelligent enough to realize that if you have this need to go, THERE IS A REASON FOR THAT. Maybe it isn't a good reason, maybe it's more of an excuse, but if you don't chase it down, you will never be happy with the person you are leaving anyway. If you stay, it will only end up gnawing at you until you leave anyway.
As for the person you're leaving behind... if they aren't strong enough to let you go, they won't be strong enough to catch you when you fall. Let them know - make that person understand. And if they choose to simply be unhappy, THAT IS THEIR CHOICE. That person can either move on, wait for you, or destroy themself.
As for me, I wait.
2007-01-17 10:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by vengerofthelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you answered your own Q, you seem to have deeper feeling for this other guy, then go with your gut feeling is telling you to do, you know the saying "never ignore your GUT FEELING". if it feels right to be with this other person then it probably is.
You owe it to your 1 yr relationship guy to let him have the chance to be with someone else. I hope that makes sense.
2007-01-17 10:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with yourself and your boyfriend. Don't just cheat--you are in a relationship and owe your boyfriend the common courtsey to at least tell him that you don't your relationship working out.
You also need to stop letting this wandering eye get in your way. If you let this happen to ALL of your relationships, you're going to end up hurting and lonely.
2007-01-17 10:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, no one knows but you' I will tell you this all my life i have wondered, see i have been married for a long while now but i know i should have been with this other guy, I was stupid and i love my husband but i will always wonder , it is in my mind and always will be, so take my advice give your self a chance with this other guy before you get any more serious with the first guy, you know what they say if they come back it was meant to be if not is wasn't' but no matter what you owe it to you' to be as happy as you can be, go for it. let me know g-luck
2007-01-17 10:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by That girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must work out quickly who you want to be with.
Is this new person just a crush?
Are you happy with the person you are with?
Either way you must make a descision so you done hurt the person you are with.
The sooner the better!
2007-01-17 10:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first don't open one door before closing the other...your feelings maybe lustrous, so just go another month or two without see him and see what happens...if it's the same feeling give homeboy you been with for year on and off his pink slip and two weeks notice and let it do what it do...
2007-01-17 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by mr_easy1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer- Follow your heart!
I'm in the same situation like you and every day that I'm not spending with the woman that i really want to be with, is a wasted day.
2007-01-17 10:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by luckystrike_x007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your current BF. If you like this person and you think you can have something with him then go for it but be sure you are not going to regret this decision and also be sure you dont want to be w your BF anymore.
2007-01-17 10:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are on and off with this guy and you have not really had a long serious relationship with him then i would just tell him that you don't have feelings for him anymore and then go see this other
2007-01-17 10:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by myzteryskate2212 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋