I've been with my b/f for over 6 years. We are 6 years apart in age, me being older and I'm wondering if he still loves me the way he says he does. He doesn't tell me he loves me as much, which he use to say whenever we got off the phone, go to bed, etc. The other day he told me that I wasn't the best girlfriend at times. He also keeps saying things like, "when we move home your not going to talk to me are you?" or "yeh, just make sure your other boyfriend isn't around when I come over." We have lived together for 2 years and we are selling our house to move back to our seperate locations due to finances and also because things seem a bit strained. Why is he making these comments and not telling me he loves me like he use to do. Am I over reacting? I just need some advice to know what I'm dealing with. Thanks so much everyone in advance!!!
2007-01-17 10:20:01 · 9 answers · asked by WickedWitch11976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is just stressed out. you two are selling your house to move back to your separate homes and he feels like he is going to lose you and doesn't know how to handle it.. so by his comments like that he is expressing his fear that because you two won't be living together and therefore not living in close conditions.. he also thinks you may not stay close for your relationship. he just needs reassurance i think. you really need to just sit down and have a good long talk with him about what exactly is going to happen... he is now unsure of the future and doesn't know what to do about anything in the present because of it. i'm sure he still loves you.. although i don't want to say for certain since i dont' know all the details of the situation.. but you need to talk and really show him you want to keep him despite what is happening with your moving and everything... because if you don't his thoughts might take over him and he will actually believe what he has been saying (but right now he most likely doesn't mean them.. or really believe them.. he is just worried and expressing it by taking it out on you in that way) i'm sorry.. i hope that helped some.... and i hope everything works out for you!! good luck with everything!
2007-01-17 10:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after 6 years and you are still living together and now you are moving apart I would think that things aren't going all that good. This is just my opinion but I have found that when people accuse you of something like not talking to you or your other boyfriend that maybe he won't talk to you after the move or maybe he has another girlfriend. People tell you what they are doing if you will only listen. You don't move out because things seem a little strained. Maybe you should consider this move a move in the right direction. After the move i would wait to see how long it was before he called and not call him until. That might tell you something. he might be telling you by his actions he wants to break up but not have the guts to actually tell you.
2007-01-17 10:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by healergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing have you ever cheated on him and
He finds out? Second, maybe he feeling down
About the financial problem you guys are having,
And feeling insecure about cant be able to provide
The way he wants too. About you guys moving back
Maybe he thinks you goanna find some one who can
Provide better then he can. If you want your Relationship
You got to make him feel secure also, just like how you
Want it. I just hope he don’t got some one else.
Hope things work out you seem like a wonderful person. Bye
2007-01-17 11:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like he is not in to you that much. If he is making those comments its because he wants to move on and maybe date someone else. Just talk to him and clear things out with him
2007-01-17 10:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump him. He obviously doesn't love you like he used to and maybe wants to move on. You should do the same thing. Or just try talking to him about why he doesn't love you. Good luck! =)
2007-01-17 10:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves u but he thinks that u dont love him. Either he really thinks that u have another boyfriend or he is guilty and is trying to cover this up. if u have made it this far there is no reason this cant be worked through. find out what is really going on.
2007-01-17 10:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by aspen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds like he's ready to move on. Just talk to him and ask him what will happen when you two move back to your homes...ask him if he wants to still be with you or see other ppl.
2007-01-17 10:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by a1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and explain to him how u feel about him not telling u that and the comments thta he has been telling you
2007-01-17 10:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww that sucks. . . just go talk to him about it . . only way to know for certain
2007-01-17 10:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mickster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋