My girlfriend recently told me that she needed me to seriously consider our relationship and decide whether I really wanted to be with her. She gave me the ring back that I gave her for our one year anniversary right before Christmas. She says there is no one else and that she wont break up with me because she cant do that to me again. She says she is having doubts about us in the future. I guess I have to decide whether or not I should continue to date her. I love her with all my heart and would never do anything to hurt her. She said its nothing with me just that she is having trouble. She is gone for a week in Hawaii with her family and wants a decision when she returns. Would it be senseless to stay with her when it seems to me that she wants out? Or am I just reading to deep into it and need to just reassure her that I care deeply about her?
2007-01-17 10:15:43 · 11 answers · asked by Brigham B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she loves and cares about and just wants to make sure there is a future for the both of you. She wants you to be sure of what you want. When a girl wants something really bad and she starts to question her faith and have doubts she needs reassurance or else she will give up and find someone who can give her what she wants. She may love you but if you don't tell her how you feel she'll end up leaving you.
2007-01-17 10:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by a1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude: It seems that she is hinting at something that you are supposedly doing that hurts her feelings. What is it? If you can't think of it then you need to ask her right away. If she gives you a shady answer, then it means that she doesn't want to be with you and that you need to move on. When women give you unspecified answers it always means that they are moving on and that you should, too.
Aside from all that let me recommend that you spend your time educating yourself so that you may make great money and command respect from everyone. In time you will have plenty of chics following you around and you may pick the one that you like best. Besides, why are you giving a ring to some uneducated, broke culo, and double minded girl at this stage in your life?
That, tiger, is the reality of the situation.
Mr. M on "what should I do."
2007-01-17 10:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your answer in your post: "it would be senseless to stay with her since it seems she wants out." There it is. She's the one having doubts so let her know that you love her, care about her, and hope that she finds peace in her heart but you won't continue with a relationship until SHE is certain. Then be ready to walk away.
2007-01-17 10:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes having the doubts why do you have to make the decisions. It sounds like you need to have a calm discussion before any one can make any decisions. I dont think you are reading to deep in this one, but I think you have to sort this one out together unless she has already made her mind up, but you wont know until you talk.xx
2007-01-17 10:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by laini1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is having doubts about you in the future it sounds like SHE is the one who wants the relationship to end but won't do it and wants YOU to do it. And also I find it strange that she did this just before she went on vac with her parents. Maybe she wanted to be free to have fun and not feel guilty. All you can do is talk to her when she gets back and explain your feelings to her and take it from there. Good Luck
2007-01-17 10:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be honest with you. Sometimes people deflect the issue by making it an issue that you have when you really don't. If you feel strong about her, then stay strong about her. I think she is the one with issues and not you. She needs to let you know everything before the two of you can decide what to do now.
2007-01-17 10:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she loves you, but isn't sure if you love her back. Show her (AND tell her) exactly how much you care about her. Then ask her how she feels about you, and leave the decision up to her. Tell her that you want to continue the relationship if she feels the same way.
2007-01-17 10:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by Susie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is here.. "She says she is having doubts about us in the future" What are the doubts?
If you can't fix the doubts. Then it's not even worth taking the next step.
2007-01-17 10:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just doesn't want to be the bad guy. If she's giving you a quasi-ultimatum, she either wants out of the relationship or she wants you to change (did you do something to upset her?)
Don't play her games. Break it off.
2007-01-17 10:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out when she get back and make her feel really special and tell her how much you really like her. she should like she really lives you but she is unsure and female we don't like to feel unsure in a relationship we want to know if it is gonna be a long lasting relationship with security.
2007-01-17 10:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by lanice_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋