What is going on here?

Question

I met this lady on the net (christian dating site) about 3 weeks ago. We chatted on the internet for about 3 hours two days straight, and then I got her number, been calling here since. Note that we are in our 20's. About 5 days later, I asked her if she would like to meet and do something together, she said that sounded good. Granted, she said I didn't make her uncomfortable at all, and it sounded like a pretty good thing is building up. She has a busy schedule, a little chaotic. So last Saturday, I left her a message and at the end of it I said to give me a shout any time, because she had that day off. It is now Wednesday, and I haven't heard a thing, not one call or message. I just want to know, what do you think is going on here? It really did sound like she was all for us meeting and was calling consistantly, so all opinions and thoughts are very much appreciated.

Answer 1

give her time. if she doesnt call you then you know she was just a coward about it

Answer 2

I hope you don't think that just because you were on a Christian dating site that everyone on there was a Christian. Or who they said they were.
You might have been talking to someone who was setting you up to meet someone entirely different than you expected...different age, different morals, different sex....OOPS! Had you thought of that?? And now that you want to meet up, she's (he's??)got to disappear. If this person's life is so busy, so chaotic, how could she take three hours two days in a row to talk to you??? Something's a bit strange here.

Answer 3

Why not give her another call and see whats going on? Maybe she has been really busy or sick. Call her again and leave another message if you can't reach her and ask her to call you as soon as possible then wait a bit and if you still don't hear from her then move on. She could have gotten "cold feet" in meeting you and is now trying to avoid you. Good Luck

Answer 4

Have you heard of the ladder theory? Google search it. Basically it's this: She is single and looking for someone. She met up with you in part of her search. She likes you and you are compatible. She likes someone else more. So she is going to drop out of sight until that doesn't work out. Then, when it does, she'll be back to you. It's just the way it works. She probably won't try to juggle more than one person if she is really interested in someone else. Keep doing your thing so you don't seem desperate when she calls.

Answer 5

Sounds like she got cold feet and decided against meeting you. You could try sending one last email explaining your confusion as to why you haven't heard from her and that you won't be contacting her after this. Then leave the ball in her court and move on. If she responds, wait to see what she says. If she doesn't repsond, oh well. Another learning experience. :)

Answer 6

Hey---go try for another. Just like the screwy guys women complain about--there are screwy women on the sites also. Nothing ventured, nothing gained,....what was it before the sites--had to meet in person---go do it the old fashioned way--less disappointment. Good luck

Answer 7

She might just be a friendly person. Dont chase. Im very friendly and guys get the wrong impression. And it drives me nuts. Just because you joke and smile does not mean anymore than just that.

Answer 8

well like you said she's busy and maybe has not had a chance to call her back. do not call her. wait until she calls you. but if it gets to be like saturday and she still hasnt called. dial *67 and then her number and see if she answers.

Answer 9

My friend used to work for a dating service--It was totally a shame and she had no intent on meeting anyone--just make sure you didn' t pay for it !!

Answer 10

she may not be who she says she is.
if her life is so busy she could still have called you or left some message.
give her a few more days then if you don't hear from her. you best forget it..

Answer 11

her chaoticness maybe made her forget or she jus dont want 2 go with u