I am feeling quite upset right now. My firend has just announced she is expecting her second. She has a little girl who is 17 months. She is a very careing person. The problem is that over xmas she packed her husbands bags and told him to leave as she thought she didn't love him anymore. He is a nice guy but I never thought he was her type at all. They are very different and there beleifs are very different too.
She decided after the hubby had gone that she wanted him back again and started trying for there 2nd baby stright away. She has confided in me and said she married him with her head and not her heart but now shes expecting again. Just feel really angry and want to say something but worried about our friendship. The worst of it is she told be she was expecting when I was with our other really good friend who knows nothing about there split and difference just latley so I had to pretend I was happy for her.
2007-01-17 09:51:01 · 8 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thanks all. I just hate being in a situation where someone says one thing and then does another and you have to keep your nose right out. Just find it hard to grit my teeth sometimes.
2007-01-17 10:05:33 · update #1
If someone confinds in you, surely you should voice your opion? I mean is it right for someone to slag a situation off and then praise it?
2007-01-17 10:08:53 · update #2
It is her life and you should be a supportive as you can while remaining neutral.
2007-01-17 09:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by >Golden Ticket< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my best friend, her and I can say anything to each other and stay friends. But if this is just a casual friend, then if you want to keep the friendship, not much you can say. If she married for security, like it sounds like, then that is probably why she got pg right away, to keep him. But, it will never last if they are not happy and it's not fair to the children to bring them into the middle of it. If she is confiding in you, then maybe she will be willing to hear your opinion of the situation. Try it if you feel that is the case otherwise, hold your tongue.
2007-01-17 17:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it is not yours or the other friends business. She is a married women. It is between her and the husband. Whatever you know, you should keep to yourself and not discuss with others. You dont really know what went on behind their recent brake up. Could have been mutual, could have been hormones if she's pregnant. Either way, if your a real ffrien, you will support her and be happy for her. Its not your place to voice your opinion. Especially if she is already pregnant. Let them try to work out their problems.
2007-01-17 17:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her decisions are just that. You have no right to tell her what to do or not do as far as her marriage/children are concerened. IF you were a true friend you WOULD be happy for her rather than angry. I suggest you look deep within yourself and figure out what your problem REALLY is about this "friend"...sounds to me as if you cold be jealous.
2007-01-18 01:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares it's her life, just support her, She'll catch up and get a grip before life bites her in the rear
2007-01-17 18:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by myspace_junkie.2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to the extreme here, but did you ever consider that your friend might still be having hormonal fluctuations, or suffering from PPD or something similar?
2007-01-17 21:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all. its her life! dont be asking other people's opinions and if she wanted them, wouldn't you think she would ask? be her friend not her mother! seriously she is a grown woman, let her lead her life and you lead your own! ok?
her decision to make her marriage all weird and messed up.
its nice that you care so much for her that you wanted to help her!
2007-01-17 18:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by yummy_20032001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your friend's life not yours!
2007-01-17 17:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋