My son was asking me why some movies are PG-13 and R rated. I started to explain to him that sometimes there are things in movies that aren't appropriate for kids but ok for adults. He is extremely bright so I wasn't beating around the bush at all when I was explaining things, when I got to the 'sexual content' I figured I would take advantage of that and see if he was curious about knowing anything more. He asked me about what 'sexual content' was. I started to answer and then he calmly stopped me and said "Never mind...I don't want to know about things until I'm older". I told him it was his decision and to come to me when he wanted to know.
What do you make of this?
2007-01-17 09:45:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would say that your son is going to be a very wise person someday and that he will continue to make wise choices. I would suggest that you give him "the talk" before junior high. growing up in today's society, he will already have gained some knowledge as to what sex and sex oriented things are. But, if you expose these things to your child too early, he might think of them as being something that is OK at any age or any time in your life. He will need to understand that there is a difference between being sexual and just straight-up having sex. I think that you are raising your child well and taking all the necessary steps to raising a good child whom will someday become an amazing person. Good luck. Hope it works out well.
2007-01-17 09:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by 1 of 6.5 billion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 9 year old should know the simple mechanics of how a baby is created and born. Wet dreams and masturbation are also good topics to cover at 9-10 years old, even menstruation as well. You need to give him the information before he needs it so that it will still be relevant when the time comes.
Even if he thinks he'd like to wait until he's older, certain topics really should be covered at this age. So long as he has a rough idea of how a baby's made, and knows about the changes puberty will bring, that's all he needs to know for now. Information about sexuality, STIs, pregnancy, and a more detailed analysis of the mechanics of sex can wait a few more years.
2014-03-10 13:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ribbon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is plenty old enough to have the talk, at least most of it. Around six, you should have explained the biology and a simplified form of where babies came from. At his age now, he is going to be at school where girls are going to start getting their periods - because many girls get them early these days - and he needs that info under his belt. Better info comes from you with your family values and morals, than from other kids at school. Don't wait for him to come to you - he may just believing what other kids are telling him, and it could be wrong or myths.
It's your job as a parent to do this, and continue adding information every year as he matures. My son matured early, so it was a good thing both my husband and I were on the ball, so just had to add additional information to what our son was already somewhat prepared for.
Good luck - there are good resources out there to help you out. Ask your doc. and check out the library.
2007-01-17 17:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that as soon as you began to talk about it he realized what he already knows about it (even if not much, maybe a few things he's heard around school or whatever) and thought it might be awkward or uncomfortable hearing it from you, just because he's a boy and you're his mother. Sex talks are usually awkward for kids and he probably realized what you were talking about, even if not much, and decided to save himself the embarressment. I know when I was younger all that stuff made me SO uncomfortable, and everytime my parents would try to talk to me about it I would do or say anything I could to get out of it. At the age of nine a lot of boys show off and try to act tough and like they know everything, so I'm sure he's heard a bit about this kind of stuff from boys who are talking about whatthey know that some others don't.
2007-01-17 17:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that he's uncomfortable talking to his mom about sex matters? I only have daughters, but I know that my oldest didn't like to talk about these things with her dad (but was very, very open with me). BTW, we went to the public library and checked out a couple of books to have "The Talk". We looked over the books together, and it seemed to make her more comfortable to be looking at a book rather than looking me in the eye as we discussed these matters. When my younger one is older, I'll probably do the same thing with her.
2007-01-17 17:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by flyonthwall99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go mommy..You are a very good mother first of all.I like the fact that you actually had an adult conversation with your son and let him make a decision to hold back on knowing more till he was ready. Now,we know where he gets his brightness from!
2007-01-17 17:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes a lot of sense. If he doesn't want to know, he just isn't interested or finds it too "gross". The good news is that because you started the topic of conversation, it is likely that he will actually come to you if you have questions.
I make it out to be a normal 9 year old boy who just isn't ready to hear about the birds and the bees.
2007-01-17 21:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not mature yet. He's probably still in the stage of "Eeeww girls have cooties!" Give him some time! He'll figure it out on his own or in school during health class. Actually, he might even feel awkward talking to his mom about stuff like that. No offense but when my parents told me about this stuff, I couldn't look at them the same way. It's creepy coming from your parents!
2007-01-17 17:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Manny D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is to wait until he gets like a teenager and then he will understand and he wont be that curious. Because now days u look at most people, There are kids now days like 4 or 5 years old looking at Playboy magazines. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-17 17:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by LaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are very smart. If he chooses to wait until later to have the talk , then wait. He feels uncomfortable so don't push it. I would definitely have the talk by 5th or 6th grade. By then they need to know it all so they won't give in to peer pressure. I gave two of my boys the talk at about 8 or 9 years old. That is because they wanted to know about it and had very good questions. They now know the importance of waiting until they get married to have sex, unlike friends of theirs who didn't know and their parents didn't have the talk. Good Luck!
2007-01-17 17:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by gettin it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋