I decided to quit my job last month as I could not take the pressure anymore. However, I made this decision impulsively as it was bringing me down. Now I am looking for a new job but he says I should have waited until I have a new job. He says now I am worried and stressed and he says I should have been more thoughtful. Morever, he told me today that he is quite upset that I did not consult him about it and did not include him in the decision-making. Can you explain to me why?
2007-01-17 09:32:23 · 6 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are not married.
2007-01-17 09:39:15 · update #1
We do not live together. We are in a long-distance relationship.
2007-01-17 09:47:42 · update #2
why ??? because he is a man and you are just a woman
2007-01-17 09:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm sorry to say that I agree with him. I think that you should have tried to find another job before quitting this one. An income has been lost and it makes a big difference in the household budget. Now, he's got all this added responsibility to pay ALL the bills. It can be more stressful trying to find work in todays economy than dealing with the pressure that comes with having a job. I would never just quit work without 1st discussing it with my other half (hubby). These remarks aren't to make you upset. My brother is forever quitting a job being soley dependent on a current girlfriend that he may have to financially support him. It's not right to just dump a financial burden on someone else.
2007-01-17 17:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off i have a question for you. are you two living together?? because that could also have lots of influence on his reaction. if you two are living together and you split the rent, utilities, etc., then he has a valid reason to get upset.
if you don't live together, then he is just worried about your livelihood. do you live alone?? are you renting?? if you don't have a job, then how will you pay for your bills, car (note, gas, and insurance)??? he was right in saying that you should have found another job before quiting the other job. that way you would not have had a space of time when you were not earning money. perhaps more or less, but not a time when you didn't have anything coming in.
2007-01-17 17:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of sounds like he might have been expecting you to be the money maker. It might not have been a wise idea but he shouldn't have said it to you like that. Everyone makes mistakes, I've done the same thin in my life but I had someone who relied on me making the money.
Don't sweat it and don't give it another thought. If he's that opinionated about something that isn't his decision, you might want to consider moving on. He doesn't seem too supportive.
2007-01-17 19:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't prepared for this big change. If "he" is your husband, then you DEFINITELY should have let him know that you weren't happy with your job. Now, it's all his responsibility to provide for you and him, which he wasn't prepared for. It is smart to know that you have somewhere to go when you leave one job...
2007-01-17 17:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria Love-Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who the heck is him?
2007-01-17 17:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lucas S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋