Both my parents and my (future) in-laws want to have an after-wedding party (and they both want to invite the other side) after my wedding. I don't want there to be a compitition who has more guests or whatever. And, to be honest, I think my parent's house would be better. Both the families have pools (June wedding) but my parents also have a hot tub, pool table, ping pong, dart board, etc. Also, my future in-laws are planning on spending massive amounts of money "for the wedding" to re-do their house while not giving as much as they told us they would for the actual wedding. How do I politely tell them that my parents would like to have the party, with everyone invited (their WHOLE family too) so they don't "have" to. I know they want to have it anyway.
2007-01-17 09:30:25 · 9 answers · asked by Just tryin' to help 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
why not put the both set of parents in touch with each other so that they can work it out between them and it will not be one more thing you have to do, Maybe ask your mom to get in touch with his mom to plan said party
2007-01-17 09:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that one of them host an "after honeymoon party" or "newlywed party". This could be where you and you new spouse can open the wedding gifts. This will give them both an opportunity to host a party in honor of your marraige.
But, do make it clear that no one should remodel their house on your account. Explain that it is wonderful to want to take on a home improvement project(and you are excited for them), However, your wedding should not be the catalyst.
2007-01-17 09:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by AlwaysOverPack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this will help, but traditionally it is the groom's parents who take care of the "rehearsal dinner" and the bride's parents foot the bill for the wedding "reception". Perhaps turn the rehearsal dinner into a wedding shower/rehearsal party and have it at his parents' house. Then have the wedding reception/after party at the her parents' home. This way both sets of parents are allowed to throw a party at their chosen location.
2007-01-17 10:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Industry_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like your feature in laws want to throw the party not for you but for them to show off the house and remodeling. Tell them Just tell them that you want to have it at your parents.If they dont go who cares. Good Luck
2007-01-17 09:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by needanswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance, if s/he agrees with you, it be better if they talk to their parents and explain to them that their entire family will be invited, but that you would both prefer to have it at your parents house.
2007-01-17 09:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - don't assume because they have all these big remodeling plans that it isn't four you. People just get excited and use it as motivation to do things they've been needing to do.
2007-01-17 09:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know how important they are to you and that thats the reason you want to be honest with them on your thoughts about the whole thing.let them know you love them and this changes nothing other than the venue.
2007-01-17 09:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Scot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to sort it out between themselves - you'll be on your honeymoon (I hope). Good luck.
2007-01-17 09:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question makes no sense. . .
2007-01-17 09:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by izzy988 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋