When do you tell the children?

Question

I just found out that I am pregnant. I have been cramping a lot and my other children want me to pick them up all the time. I just tell them I can't because I don't feel good. They are 3 & 4. I want to tell them, but I would hate to end up having a miscarriage and then have to explain that. but I don't think I can go for 3mo explaining away why I can't do things. And I don't want them finding out from someone else either. I can't decide what to do. Someone decide for me. :(

Answer 1

I would say that mommy might have a baby in her belly that's why I can't pick you up until we know for sure. That way you don't have to get into explaining death and heaven just yet, and really at 3 and 4 it's such a tough call as to how much they really understand. I think they probably would, so the above is a cautious enough statement to fit the ticket. Good luck.

Answer 2

They are still kind of young to understand the whole thing. I would just tell them that mommy is having a stomach ache or some other lie until you get past the miscarriage point. Trust me it will be alot easier then having to explain why there is no baby God forbid if something should go wrong. Take it from me I told my five year olds and ended up having a miscarriage and there were plenty of tears it is best to avoid this situation.

Answer 3

At 3 and 4 they are too little to wait for 8 months, even 4 weeks will seem like a lifetime to them, so wait till they can feel the baby kicking them when they sit on your (evre-decreasing) lap and then explain what is there...so I'm afraid to say that I think you should wait a good long time to say anything to them and counsel your friends/family not to say anything until a lot nearer your due date, as well!

Answer 4

I would wait until the first trimester is over before I told the kids.What does your doctor say about the cramping? If this didn't happen with your other 2 children there maybe a problem. Talk with your doctor or nurse practitioner.The doctor can probably give you meds for pain. Best of Luck.

Answer 5

That is a tough situation. Do they know that you are pregnant? If they do, you could tell them that picking them isn't good because it might squish your stomach. That it would be better if you sit down and they sit on your lap for a few minutes. Hope this helps a little.

Answer 6

I'd wait to tell them. 9 months is a long time for little kids.

Answer 7

tell them kids are smarter then what we think.and tell them their going to be a big brother or sister.and let them no you can longer hold them because you don't want to hurt their bro or sis.

Answer 8

tell them now, be like how would you guys feel if you had a baby brother/sister?? after there answer be like, your ognna be a older brother or sister

Answer 9

if you are not ready to tell them, tell them to let you sat down first then they can climb onto your lap.