Plus, he can't do it at all when he's sickvwith a cold or upset about something even if it's other than me.
2007-01-17 09:19:32 · 23 answers · asked by michimama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plus, he can't do it at all when he's sick with a cold or upset about something even if it's other than me.
I'm usually hornier than he is, even when I am taking birth control that can really lessen my sex drive.
p.s. We don't have any real relationship problems. So this is not a factor.
2007-01-17 09:22:38 · update #1
Im 55 and a lot more active than that.General health is a big factor.
2007-01-17 09:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
male ejaculation or orgasm takes a lot out of a man. If he is well rested and exercise regularly and has a healthy diet and there are no worries then he could go for more than once with rest in between each. However, this all depends on the person and many factors. A person that works over 10 hours, then have to clean the house, attend the kids and deal with God knows what will have sex less often than a person who has no worries whatsoever. Again is different for every person. Some people can go rain snow or high water. Others just once a week.
Not wanting to perform while you are sick is quite normal. The no wanting to perform while upset is also normal. What is going on is that your boyfriend wants to find the solution to the problem. He figures that the issue at hand is more important at the moment than having sex. Welcome to the adult world. Once the problem goes away then he'll want sex. Imagine trying to get something done but being interrupted every five minutes. That's exactly what your boyfriend is going thru. Hes the type of person that thinks too much and delves too much on the problem. I suffer from that disease too. Now, there are some people that work just the opposite. Put them under stressed and they'll want sex because to them it works as a stress relief.
2007-01-17 09:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was a teen and in my 20's. I could do it countless number of times a day. Even in one session. Give me a 5 minute break and it's party time again! Now, in my 30's. Once a day or even 3 or 4 times a week is fine.
I can understand about being sick and not wanting it, maybe even being upset. But I guess that depends on the reason. Usually sex helps when feeling down... he might have some other hang ups.
Talk to him and find out whats going on.....
2007-01-17 09:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky there are girls out there who only get it once a week! Its perfectly normal! Maybe he can have sex more than once but usually you have to give them time to recharge. Ask him. My husband has the best sex drive but when he has a cold or is really upset about something sex is the last thing on his mind. If hes just upset about something suggest a nice bath to help relax him and then maybe you can help him forget about his problem long enough to get some action. Keep in mind every man is different and i know i sound like some old lady saying this but communication is very important in your sex life. Talk to him you have nothing to lose! Good luck
2007-01-17 09:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a light switch you can just turn on geez if I got a cold humpins the last thing on my mind same if I'm upset. Try letting him recharge and refill for a day or two instead of making him feel obliged day after day then the sex will be fun he will be horny rather than just doin it to keep you happy.
No offence but put your boyfriends needs first for once maybe he needs to rest up ready for a good sex day
2007-01-17 09:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMPLETELY normal, hon. No worries at all. Many men feel tremendous pressure in our culture because there is this stereotype that men can and should want it anytime, anywhere. That's just not the case. There are some men like that, but your boyfriend is much more average. It's well known that emotions are closely tied to sex for women, but some men are that way too, and it's completely normal.
Good luck! Don't worry about your guy!
2007-01-17 09:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by P_P_K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has performance anxiety. Doubt there's anything medical about it, just psychological (well when you have a cold the blood flow isn't there). Don't stress him more by pressuring him about it. Unless, I can ask (not to be mean) but do you live together and how long have you known each other??? Is he with you a lot??? (Like in other words, not to be mean) Is he married?
2007-01-17 09:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys are like that....some just dont have the stamina that others do. I guess if it is something that bothers you then you should look at the big picture and do something about it. We all know that sex is a big picture in any relationship.
2007-01-17 09:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Believe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure. when someone is distracted by something, its perfectly normal to not be into having sex. as for the one a day thing, yeah, its normal. it's all about recovery time. the fact may be that he's capapble of more, but his libido simply doesn't support it. either way, nothing is medically wrong with him. don't worry.
2007-01-17 09:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO !!! Not for me I can have sex 5 or 6 times a day !
He has a problem !
2007-01-17 09:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tex 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋