I'm the father and i don't want my child living with another guy that isn't married to the mother.
2007-01-17 09:12:19 · 45 answers · asked by dustin s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
unfortunately, yes
2007-01-17 09:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Were YOU ever married to her? Are you 'divorced' now? ONLY then do you have any 'potential' say in who your child 'lives with' and you MUST check your 'custody agreement' carefully to BE SURE if you have any 'rights' in that area. If you think this man she's living with is hurting that child in ANY WAY then you should call the Child Protective Services and ask for an 'investigation' and TELL THEM that if they find anything wrong and think the child should not 'live there', then YOU will take the child until the matter can be 'settled by a court.' Is it REALLY the 'child' you're worried about, or are you just wanting to 'get back' at the child's mother for some reason? Look in your own heart first ... and BE SURE because you might end up having to raise a child you don't really want.
2007-01-17 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child’s mother has custody of the child, Yes. However, if this boyfriend was abusive or some how making the child’s living conditions poor then I can imagine the father taking it to court and getting custody of the child if that is what you wanted. If this is not the case, and the boyfriend is a good guy then there’s nothing you can do.
2007-01-17 09:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by NickP8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as the child isn't being mistreated or abused in any way. Be honest with yourself. It is because your ex isn't married to they guy, or maybe because you are a little jealous? Which would be totally understandable. If the guy is really no good, and you feel that it would be bad for your child, then you should look into doing something about it. If not, then just make sure that you spend lots of time with your child and enjoy, they grow very quickly. good luck.
2007-01-17 09:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Zoey ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be worse if they were maried, as he then would be step-dad to your child at least this way you have a lot more power over the guy. Have more visitation with your child to at least show this guy that your DAD and that you will be around forever, don't worry too much that he is living there. But the others are correct the mother has that right. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-17 09:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one it's the child's decision but the mother should take into consideration how well does she now this man to trust him with her daughter around bcuz sorry to say there are alot of crazy people in this world and these guys the mother's is letting in can do things to the girl and black-male her not to say anything so i don't know. How long has she been with him? does he have children of his own? how is he with children? there's alot to think about when its dealing with a child. married or not married she should take a second thought of CHILD's perspective!
2007-01-17 10:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can. As long as the environment is safe for the child, then theres nothing you can do about it. Think about it this way, what if the kid lived with you, you met a girl, and wanted her to move in. You wouldnt want the mother to protest would you? Why dont you meet the guy and then make your judgements.
2007-01-17 09:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This goes on in society all the time and there is nothing that can be done about it. You can take it to court but they will completely ignore you because you don't have custody of the child and there is not viable reason (unless there is sexual, or physical abuse) for the child not to stay with the mother.
2007-01-17 09:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the child should live with the mother anyway beacuse its the childs mother but even better you should make a schedlue so sometimes the childs at your house and sometimes at the mothers!
2007-01-17 09:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by nicolcool128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if you grow up and stop and think what is BEST for your child. Maybe this guy is good to the kid and does things with the kid-as long as he doesnt abuse the kid, then why make a big deal over it. It is HER business who she is living with. What are you one of these fellas that didnt want her but will try not to allow anyone else to have her and allow her to e happy.
2007-01-17 09:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that the situation is less than ideal for your child. Perhaps you should attempt to get custody...however, remember, don't be a hypocrite. If you don't feel that this is good environment for your child, it will not be good to come into your home with a girl friend living there either.
I don't know why men and women both submit their children to casual and/or temporary sexual relationships. It doesn't make them feel secure in their home life. It's hard enough for a child to accept a new stepfather, stepmother or stepsibling...mommy or daddy's live in honey is just not right.
2007-01-17 09:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋