Becaue it is quite ridiculous to pay thousands of dollars for some caterer especially because pot-lucks are soo much yummier! What about have a male bridesmade? A red dress? No flowers? Why are weddings always so expensive and frivilous??
2007-01-17 08:51:44 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ha Ha, I am not even thinking of getting married anytime soon. But I quite despise the way society views weddings today. I cannot even believe that there is a list of should and should nots for this kind of thing. A wedding is a ceremony celebrating the marriage between two persons and God. It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else! A wedding is not about getting wedding presents (I don't want any anyway), finding the perfect dress, or about spending thousands of dollars to make a day perfect. And to the person suggesting I elope. . Im sorry darling but your answer makes no sense. Just because I want an inexpensive affair does not mean I do not want my loved ones present.
2007-01-18 09:00:12 · update #1
I say, whatever you want for your own wedding.. then that's what you should do! :)
It's your special day, and you should feel free to wear what you want, eat what you want.. etc.
It only happens once, so enjoy yourself!
2007-01-17 09:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it sounds like you already have your mind made up but here is another perspective. I have to drop some brutal honesty on you. Having a pot luck reception is just just screaming "white-trash" and low class. Either do it right or don't do it. People will be supportive of you to your face and will talk smack about how ghetto your wedding is behind your back.
You can cut costs on weddings by bargain hunting and doing alot of the work yourself - but if people are eating chilli and stewed pork out of crock pots ... its just not classy.
Do this if you want, but don't say you weren't warned.
If you don't have the cash to have a real wedding and do it right, then just elope - go somewhere fun and get hitched. Its more about the commitment you make to each other than the ceremony anyway.
As for the other questions you had about the red dress and male 'bridesmaid', I think these are choices you can go with - as long as you are giving this important day the weight it deserves. Deviations from tradition are acceptable and can help you personalize this important day - but do it with purpose and keep a sense of class and synthesis in all that you do with this.
2007-01-17 17:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on what your expectations are in return. If you are having a gift registry and guests are reasonably expected to contribute a gift the way most weddings are, then I think it's a bit much to expect them to bring food on top of that. However, if you're not doing a gift registry or you have "no gifts, please" included with your invitation, then I certainly think it's fair to ask people to contribute for a pot-luck. I just know I would be kind of put out if I had to buy a gift AND bring food, but I wouldn't mind doing one or the other. As for the red dress & no flowers... it's your wedding, and who's it hurting? You do what you can afford and what you want.
2007-01-17 17:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these things depend on how formal or informal your wedding is. Key words here are "YOUR WEDDING" you can do whatever you like.
I have seen the brother of a friend stand up for her as "man of honor" I don't know it that is correct or not, but I have seen it. A red dress for whom? You or the bridesmaids? Flowers are also up to you...a single flower for you could look very nice. I don't know about the pot luck deal, once again, if you have a very small wedding, you could do that.
2007-01-17 17:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pot lucks in my opinion are for a very very informal wedding. If your going to have something more formal I think going with a reception that is more formal is better, buffets are nice too.But when it comes down to it, its your wedding and who you want in it, how everyone is dressed and yes even the food, thats all your choice. Just remember its a one time deal and you cant do it over.
2007-01-17 18:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big no on the pot luck! You are asking people to celebrate with you, and asking them to bring something to eat would be like saying "you can come as my guest, but you have to pay your own way." You can find cost-cutting ways to serve guests without asking anything of them. As for the dress, go for it if that's what you like. It does NOT have to white. Bridesmaids do not have to be female, either. Check out www.theknot.com for any questions you may have. I use it, and I found a lot of information from there.
2007-01-17 17:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are to host the wedding, which means you provide a meal. You can have male friends be attendants, but on the groom's side. No problem with bridesmaids wearing bread. Carry weeds if you like; some are quite beautiful. Weddings do not have to be expensive and surely not frivolous - make your wedding what you and your guy want.
2007-01-17 17:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say no on the pot luck. If you don't want to spend money on food, just have cake and cheap champagne. I would indicate that on the invitations though, so people aren't expecting dinner.
I stood in as maid of honor at my sister's wedding.
2007-01-17 17:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Marco 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the type and size of the wedding, the location, the guest list,and who is going to cook.
2007-01-17 17:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's tacky to have a pot luck dinner reception!!!
DON'T DO IT!!
Why are you even having a wedding then?? Just go to an island and elope?? You don't seem to want a real wedding??
2007-01-17 17:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋