we broke up officially a couple days ago, because he couldn't be with me anymore because we argued all the time about nothing and i would always complain how he never treated me like a girlfriend. for the past couple days i've been calling him and just crying and telling him how i want him back, even though i've been finding out recently that he's been hanging out with a few girls lately, (who by the way are noted to be 15 and 17 .. he's 20 but he's still in high school and i'm at college about an hour away but this happened over winter break) but we've been dating for about 2 years and he was my first. i never thought i'd take this so hard so i either need to get over him the right way or get him back. help?!
2007-01-17 08:39:19 · 23 answers · asked by elaina jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He never treated you like a girlfriend, he hangs out with 15 and 17 year olds when he's 20 and still in high school.... Honey, reality check! First clue, 20 and still in high school! You don't want him if his priorities are that screwed up! And he's hanging out with girls that much younger than he is? He's just looking for some easy action! Forget about him honey. Trust me on this one. It won't be easy, especially since he was your first and you may think you loved him. I dated my first for almost 5 years and when we broke up he came out of the closet and admitted he was gay! Every other relationship after him was horrible until I finally found the right guy. I know a thing or two about jerks like that. The best advice I can give is: stay away from him! It will make it easier if you don't see him.
2007-01-17 08:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all reality, your crying and wanting is not what's going to get him back. I recently was very upset about losing the attention of someone I wanted to stay connected with. Only once I started getting mad about things and then write a long and honest letter (email) did it sorta 'work'. I said how what I may have been doing or thinking was not ideal, and what he had done might have been problematic for me. But once I put it all out there, and wasn't completely emotional about it... he actually responded. (And I felt much better even before he did.) Stop wallowing in self-pity and really start thinking about what HE did that was stupid.... then call him on it. But be positive.. say there are good thigns about him too.
2007-01-17 16:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by tb75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry a 20 year old still in high school and you are in college. I am sorry but you obviously need to let go of the loser. I can relate to hanging on because of he took your virginity. I was in that situation too. But don't hold on for the wrong reasons but for all the right reasons. Make a list of pros and cons and if the cons out weight the pros then it's time to move on with out looking back. Best of luck to you and your decision.
2007-01-17 17:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by ThisIsAsHonestAsItGets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an Educated Fool! You are in college putting up with this bullshhit from a 20 yr old High School student??? He's stupid to be that old in High School in the first place. Move on to bigger and better already. You made a mistake. No big deal. None of us is perfect. Learn from this mistake and the next man you meet don't be so quick to sleep with him. Especially someone who is way pass the age to still be in High School. Put on your thinking cap NOW and move on! Think about it....email me if you need to vent.
2007-01-17 16:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want you back, you don't sound like a good prize so face reality and move on, you can try to change but you will always revert back to the same attitude in life, if you're in college then you should be surrounded by boy's, it's time you took your life to the next level and start meeting new people, create different experiences and enjoy the college stage of growing up in life, there will never be anything like it once you graduate, trust me
2007-01-17 16:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo!!!! You said the magic words:
1. You argue about nothing
2. YOU DON'T LIKE THE WAY HE TREATS YOU******
****2 STARS FOR NOT BEING IN DENIAL*****
You two are not right for each other. MOVE ON. YOU will be okay.
This is the time for you to release what is wrong (him) and make room for what is right. You must let go.....Feel free to email me to give you strength! You need it! Crying is healthy! You are ridding your body of toxics believe it or not. (look it up)
2007-01-17 16:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by sunshinesmoothoperator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl sooner or later you will have sex and get over him you are way better and deserve a better guy come on 20 and in high school thats stupid no offense and about the girls thats means he doesnt like you anyways he never treated you as his girlfriend you guys were dating.
2007-01-17 16:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by chiquilla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the one for you, sorry and if he is this much trouble why would you want him. There is someone out there very close to you that is meant for you. Also, get a hobby take up tennis and learn to be a really good tennis player but do it now.
2007-01-17 16:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't work on getting him back, I'd work on forgetting him! You're in college now. How about looking for a new beau who's more in tune with your life style and current activities as well as academic development.
2007-01-17 16:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by JADE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting over people u love is hard as hell but it wont always feel so bad. once u realize u dont need him and there are people who will love u and treat u better u wont regret the descision. people go in and out of relationships all the time but your family and friends are most important. they will help you through this.
2007-01-17 16:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by mongoose29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋