We had to go outside for a school project today and it was freezing. I was really cold and this really annoying kid who always tries to flirt with me was like, "Do you want my sweatshirt." Because it is so freezing, I have no choice but to nod and move towards him. He draped his sweatshirt around my shoulder and sort of moved close to me and hugged me for the whole time. I didn't object because of the cold weather, but inside I was kind of disgusted by this guy who is a total slimeball. As soon as I got inside I just said thanks and then said that I still don't like him and that I accepted his sweatshirt only because I had to. Later that day someone said that he was crying in the bathroom and he was supposed to be this really tough guy. Was I too hard on him and should I apologize.
2007-01-17 08:37:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well obviously you think you might have been to harsh cuz you asked the question. I think I would go back to him, thank him again but let him know you are cool being friends but not bf/gf. Tell him it was really nice of him to offer you his sweatshirt but now you think maybe he took things the wrong way when you accepted it. If he was really crying at school then this guy is really sprung on you. No sense in hurting his feelings needlessly.
2007-01-17 08:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a little harsh. If he is such a slimeball, why would even want him touching you, much less get that up close & personal with him. Maybe he just annoys you b/c you don't really know him. Either way, it would only be right to apologize for sounding so harsh, but thank him again for keeping you warm.
2007-01-17 16:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by tra5682000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say I'm sorry again. I mean, he obviously should have known before offering you his sweatshirt that you weren't interested in him. I'm sorry but if he would have walked up to the sexiest, prettiest girl there, and she was cold, she would have taken it too. You were just trying to stay warm, not get on his good side or anything.
2007-01-17 16:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by mommy2be031207 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have let him hug you. Yeah if it was cold maybe u could have taken the jacket but let him know your intent (only to keep warm and nothing to do wit him). its not like you would have frozen to death so i dont konw why really you let him hold u for so long - maybe someone likes the attention? All guys even tough guys cry and can get hurt. i think its good of u for wanting to let him know that you still didnt haev feelings for him so he knew where he stood but maybe u could have said it in a nicer way.
2007-01-17 18:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't do anything wrong. It's not like you lead him on, all you did was tell him that you still don't like him. The only other thing you can do is go up to him and tell him sorry if he felt used. You can also tell him that he offered the sweatshirt to you and you took it because you were cold, not because you liked him.
Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-17 16:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it was really nice of him to offer his sweatshirt but you are not interested in him other than a friend. And that it will never change. Just tell him that your not the right girl for him and one day he'll find a girl that is just for him....Hopefully it works out!
2007-01-17 16:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by yeah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably made up the crying part
why exactally do you dislike the guy... is it something he did or is it because of what other people say? he offered you his sweatshirt, that in itself is a nice gesture.
I would just go on as normal and if the opportunity comes up where you have to speak to him, be nice
2007-01-17 16:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is he a slimeball? I wish a guy would fo that for me instead of trying to have sex with me. you broke his heart and so try doing something nice like being friends ( at least that) and work it from there. telll him your conditions on how you two can work on a boyfriend /girlfriend relationship from there.
2007-01-17 16:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by ezekiel's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea.......give the guy a chance........it doesn't matter about the outside but the inside.
2007-01-17 16:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by MonyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're being to soft, if he's gross and flirts too much just say thanx and move on
2007-01-17 16:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Unknown Artist~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋