ok i really like this guy and he asked me out and i said yes but even though i've had several boyfriends before my parents have all of a sudden decided that i can't date until i'm 16...i've tried to tell them how i feel but they just aren't getting it...what should i do?
2007-01-17 08:36:48 · 30 answers · asked by ♥chloe♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'll be 16 in april and my parents have known about all my past boyfriends...they really liked the last one and i think that they're not over him even though i am...
2007-01-17 08:47:57 · update #1
me and my last boyfriend were practically inseperable and we went out by ourselves all the time...
2007-01-17 08:55:16 · update #2
tough situation. yea, you're not alone. a lot of people, including me have to go throught that at one time or another with their parents. i don't know what you can doo..show them he is a nice guy. get your aunt/sister or any trusted female to show and prove to your parents how dating a guy is not that bad. or maybe, come to an agreement with your parents. let's say they only want you to date with a chaperone, or not at all. ok? that's not TOO bad.. unless you would do diffreent things with your date if a chaperone wasn't there..but just compromise. i mean, a chaperone on a date, yes it's awful, but it's better than nothing, right? i mean compromise with them. come to an agreement where all of you will be at least partially happy..
and if nothing works out, just wait until you are sixteen. depends how old you are? how old are you? i mean, you're probably still young, there's plenty of time to date.
2007-01-17 08:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by A Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young - your focus should be on things that will benefit your future
To be honest dating and having boyfriends are overrated - have friends, have option why tie yourself down?
The whole point of dating and having boyfriends is to find your potential marriage mate - at 16 your obviously not going to be getting married any time soon so be friends be exclusive as friends or dating why bothering labeling, the relationship by him being your boyfriend
So much will change from now until you graduate, and if you talk to your parents about not wanting a relationship but having friends they will be more willing to accept him because they are viewing you as being mature and focused on the right things rather than a new boy.
Good Luck
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2007-01-17 16:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not getting it, you can't go out alone with boys until your 16, your not the parent, they are and parenting has a lot of responsibility with it. They have a human life in there hands and they are responsible. So wait, 16 comes but once in your life.
2007-01-17 16:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this is to show them maturity and make sure you involve them.
Start by talking to your parents about this guy and explain that you really like them, that you do not want to be in a serious relationship, but that you would like to spend time with him.
Ask if you can invite him over. Let them meet him, get to know him. Don't do anything you shouldn't (for example: sneak around behind their back) be open with them and give them the opportunity to see that you are being mature, you do want to make sure they are comfortable with what you are doing, and that you can be trusted.
2007-01-17 16:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by jaynic72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Hun to tell u from a parents point of view. u may have had several boyfriends. but having them and going out somewhere with them is 2 different things. a helpful hint. maybe if you get have someone your parents trust go with you. maybe they will allow u 2 go 2 a movie
2007-01-17 16:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by ladydragonblue16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they have let you have a boyfriend b4 then they probably jus dont like the guy you got now! ask them that straight up an see what they say if they still dont think its good then theres not much you can do.....shoot boys are gonna come an go but your mom and dad you only get one of so try an just deal with there decision
2007-01-17 16:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I'm saying this (because I'm a parent of a 14 year-old) but you could go out with this guy without your parents knowing. Go somewhere after school or if during the evening you could tell your parents you're at a friend's house. You didn't hear this from me ;-)
2007-01-17 16:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got a more lasting relationship with your parents than you will with this guy. It pays to wait a while then until you REALLY LIKE a guy. Then you can go to the trouble of 'fighting' for him if your parents still don't want you to date.
Save your energy, peace of mind, relationship with your parents, and peace at home for a worthier cause.
2007-01-17 16:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to run away from home. That will show them! You are old enough to run your own life. Just because you rely on them for Food, clothes, money, and shelter doesn't mean they can just tell you what you can or can't do!
Parents are a drag! Street-life forever!
Also you could get pregnant, then they will have to accept him.
2007-01-17 16:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Taco Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are trying to protect you from yourself....at 16 you still are not mature enough to make some decisions that will come your way, so dont be upset with your parents, they are only trying to help you....if you still want to date - ask your parents if you can do something with your bf like going out as a group instead of alone and in public places...not down the dirtroad....lol
2007-01-17 16:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋