we were together for less than 5 months and after moving abroad we were in constant touch via email and sms...for a good healthy two years...but now since joinin college, due to heavy workload ewe are not in touch as before..she complained abt this many time and now doesnt bother....she mails me less often and texts have reduced dramatically.....i want someone to understand ma feeling and i kinda commited maself to her!!!! do u think i shud keep the relation wid her...or if i shud break up!! wat shud i tell her..she is very senstive and i dnt want to hurt her..plz take some of ur time and help me out..thanks
2007-01-17 08:29:47 · 19 answers · asked by rahulzdaboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends, do you love her? do you see yourself with her in the future? do you dream about each other still? will you guys be able to comit to holidays and vacations to each other to keep the relationship alive? You gotta talk to each other and be really sincere and open minded, neither of you should be selfish with each other, if you are young I guess it is time to move on once you answered all those questions.
2007-01-17 08:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandrarc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone in a long distance r/ship too, I know how difficult it can be. I would say though that, if you are really honest about committing yourself to her, then your FIRST and ONLY priority should be being with her. Your college and work commitments can be reproduced in the other country. She will draw back from you the greater YOU allow the distance between you to be.
I am aiming to be with my girl soon this year and hope to start living our life together, no matter what we face, we will face it together and Thats' what matters!
Good luck to you both anyway!
2007-01-17 08:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by scotslad60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point it seems as thought the two of you are just penpals. I'm sure you care about her and that she cares about you, but a part of every relationship has to be physical. Not necessarily sex or even kissing, but close personal contact bonds people. You might want to explain to her that she is important to you but right now, the distance and workload are too great.
2007-01-17 08:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cool Guy With Long Hair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a long distanced relationship doesn't really work. It's hard enough because you have to go away. I think that maybe you're just sad because she is not talking to you much. You should talk to her about it and see where your relationship is going and see if the both of you will be committed to each other. If you have faith and trust in your relationship, it might just work out. Good luck! =)
2007-01-17 08:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have this problem with guys. they didn't the lack of communication is because I am with someone else but the truth is I am a study nerd. I will study my *** off to keep up my grades in college. Sometime I forget to call people even with my family. She might have a very busy family schedule or crisis like mine ( my grandmother has congested heart failure) so lighten up. you still got a chance. there plenty to life than chasing after somebody else unless it your kids.
2007-01-17 08:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by ezekiel's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her what the deal is - find out if she's really too busy, or if she's moved on. Long distance relationships are hard, and if you're not in contact, what's left? If you're not feeling like you're getting everything out of it, try to work it out, or end it.
2007-01-17 08:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by phoozles2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel/ Do you feel you can't be in this relationship anymore? It'd not just about her, you are in it to. You have to decide what you want and how feel bout her and your future? You need to talk to her and voice how you feel, then you both need to make a decision together. She or you may get hurt and not be happy with the decision. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 08:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the separation is temporary and you plan to reunite in the future, maybe keep the communication open. If it's always going to be long distance, what's the point?
2007-01-17 08:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by cheifscheer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its true love it will last..... i think you should talk to her about it and see how each other feel long distance relationships are hard because you don't see each other and their is certain obstacles you have to overcome in a relationship that normal couples don't just have patience if its meant to last it will... Wish you luck!
2007-01-17 08:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how she feels. She is probably just loaded with work just like you and probably wants you to start calling more often. You guys need to see each other. Plan a trip to see each other and let her know how you feel and hopefully one day you guys will meet up again.
2007-01-17 08:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋