I am 16 and my brother is 14. We usually get along but as kids we would fight a lot. Now it seems like we fight over something everyday. When we were younger we never physically fought becasue I was big for my age and he was small for his. Right now we are about the same height. Sometimes we might wrestle over something. I thought as teens you get along more. What I am going through, is that normal and will we stop fighting about stupid things soon?
2007-01-17 08:24:04 · 12 answers · asked by Meaghan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The thing is I will most likely be staying home and commuting to and from college.
2007-01-17 08:48:22 · update #1
You'll get along again. He's probably hitting puberty, going to a new school, and trying to adjust to a more adult body. Like when you were kids, you two are on separate maturity levels. He'll grow up in a couple years and you'll get along again. Just try to remember you are older and more mature and don't give in to the fights.
2007-01-17 08:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cookie I would like to tell you that you do.....and eventually you will when you move out......even then when you visit back home you still might tussel.lol. That's how siblings are. I have eight sisters and at one time or another I have fought with every last one of them except for the baby...but her day is coming. That's what sibilngs do.....as long as the fights aren't serious you have nothing to worry about. When you're older you won't fight as much but you'll miss that connection. So don't be in such a hurry not to wrestle every once in a while it's good for your relationship. Take a breather babe, you're on the right track.
2007-01-17 08:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is normal. Me and my brother (he is 17 and I'm 14) used to be like really good friends when we were little but we still got into fights once in a while. We're not very close anymore and I think thats just because we're growing up but we argue and yell at each other a lot more now. I'm sure it'll stop after we even older, like in college or an adult. It might be just because you're both teenagers and you both have a lot of stress.
2007-01-17 08:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by stacie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's normal for siblings to fight, even physically at times (wrestling). You'll still fight even as you grow older, maybe less frequently, though. Just don't escalate the fighting where it gets too overly physical. My brother and I almost got into a serious fist-fight about 2 1/2 yrs ago. Needless to say, I don't talk with/to him unless i have to.
2007-01-17 08:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by lone wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh i would say that is quite normal for some people around those ages.
But try to get along ... you never know what is waiting around the corner for either of you & you may ending up regreting all the fights if you can never live that moment again.
Everyday passes by when you fight & you can never go back to that moment. Make some happy memories of you & your brother so that when your older & look back... you won't just remember fighting.
hope i helped in some way. good luck x
2007-01-17 08:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both seem to be too old to handle things as if you were kids fighting over a toy! try sitting down with him by encouraging him to be the teenager he is. let him know that this is just silly to be fighting like this at this age and see if you can find a better way to communicate --- he may be jealous of you being that youre older and you may be jealous of him in some ways too.
2007-01-17 08:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to talk to him at try to make him understand that you guys are old enough to be fighting about silly things, plus you can also make him see that what if you or him where to die today or tomorrow (since we don't know when we will live) how would he or you feel about having the Last time together fighting, do you and he think is worth it? Nope! Is not.
Good luck!
: o )
2007-01-17 08:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's just put it this way, I am 24 and my brother is 22 and we still fight all the time when we get around eachother! It drives my parents nuts! Someday they say we will be good friends but I don't believe it. there is nothing really that you can do about it but try your best to stay quiet around him.
2007-01-17 09:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sherrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound simplistic, and I don't have this problem so i really don't know, but can't you - at least one of you - just choose not to argue and fight? I mean, if it's minor crap that really doesn't matter why argue? Like choosing not to get angry over small stuff.
2007-01-17 08:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal. You are testing each other's limits. And, the fighting will not end until you are older and one of you moves out.
2007-01-17 08:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋