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i know this is long, but please answer both questions so i went on a cruise and i met this whole group of guys. me and my friend hung out with them every single night of that cruise. the first 3 nights i had noticed this one guy, but nothing was happening between us, we just hung out really as a big group and talked a lot. the 4th night strolled around and me and this kid were hanging out and we went to my room and talked the whole entire night. he had mentioned to me ahead of time that he didn't want me to think he was gay because he wasn't going to do anything with me because i had already hooked up with his brother. so i was fine with that, and the whole entire night we talked about so much. i started to have more than a physical attraction to him, and before we even hooked up that night he had already kissed me on the cheek and when he had to go to the casino he promised he'd be back in 20 minutes to hang out with me, and he came back in 10. then we talked some more and by the end of the night we had hooked up. he slept over my room, and he had asked me before we hooked up if we were going to be hanging out the next day. the next day my friend got him from the casino, because he was always there right after dinner, and she asked him if he wanted to hang out..so he said yes and he came to my room right away to hang out. we had talked for a little while, and then he asked if i wanted to go to his room, and we went and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally in the moment. it was amazing, although he didn't talk much, it was as if he was focusing really hard and concentrating. he did everything to me, and there was a lot of foreplay. after we had sex, we went to the casino for a little while, and i told him i was going to go back to my room to lay down. i wasn't expecting him to come back that night, but he came knocking on my door to sleepover. the next night he came looking for me to hang out, but he thought i was with another guy because i was hanging out in a room with another guy, but nothing happened between me and that guy. so now he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. eventually we met back up again, and he explained to me how he thought i was with another guy. i cleared it up for him and told him that i was not with another guy at all, and i wouldn't be. that night, him, me and my friend hung out the whole entire night talking, until this other guy came to hang out with my friend. and then me and this kid had sex again in the moment, which was even more amazing the second time. he was so caring, and seemed to be more comfortable. he was constantly asking if i was alright, and told me to tell him when to stop. he slept over again that night and we layed together. earlier that night he had pulled my friend aside to ask what the deal with me was. and he said that i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and if i lived where he did after the cruise we'd be together. it just so happens that i am going to college where he lives. the last night we hung out once again and talked a lot, and he kissed me goodbye on the lips. after the cruise, he commented me right away on myspace, and we talked a few times, but it's really hard to talk everyday, and it's not easy to get involved in a long distance relationship, because those hardly ever work, plus we never really talked about it. at one point he had been really busy, but i thought he was avoiding me..so i left him a message saying, i'd still like to be friends or at least talk for that matter, but if you don't write back then i'll know you don't want any part of me. sure enough, he wrote back, and told me that of course we're still friends, and let me know that he didn't have a girlfriend or anything. i surprised him one time and he was really happy to see me, he acted the same exact way he did on the cruise, and kissed me on the lips goodbye. he told me to call him next time that way we could actually meet up and hang out. he wanted to make sure i was definitely coming to college there also. it was a really nice visit, and after the visit, he had commented me asking me how the rest of my trip was , and telling me to call him next time i was in his state. we haven't talked in awhile, and for right now i'm moving on, and so is he..he has a girlfriend which he just got recently, and i'm sure i'll find someone new, but hopefully in the future this might work out. p.s. i never did anything to him such as giving him head or a hand job, and he wasn't with any other girls on the cruise.

does this sound like he really liked me a lot, but now he has a girlfriend because we can't be together?
and do you think that we'd definitely be together if i lived where he did right after the cruise?

Answer 1

that was really long......it sounds as if he enjoyed having you while on the cruise....and would like to have you, again, whenever you're in his state.
you can't be with him because he has a girlfriend. and if you lived in the same state you still wouldn't be together because he knows that you like to spread yourself thin (you hooked up with his brother?)

Answer 2

In any situation there are at least two ways to percieve things. We are hearing your side of what happened, such as "he was really caring" etc. where that might not have been what he was trying to convey. So to answer your two questions:

1. It sounds to me like you think he liked you a lot, and he very well might, but you told the story in a way that tells me that you think he did. If all of the things in your story are true (including subjective items as well) then I would say he really liked you.

2. It sounds to me like he enjoyed your company and enjoyed the physical aspect of your relationship, and therefore you two would probably be together if you lived in the same city. You have to know though that guys can tell a girl what she wants to hear to get in bed with her, especially if he doesn't think he's going to see you again. BTW I'm a guy. Hope I answered your questions well!

Answer 3

I don't see what there is to this relationship, what makes it worthwhile or meaningful--so I think its a strong likelihood it wouldn't ahve lasted long.

Liked you a lot? Sure, but what does that mean? And if he moved on so quickly, things can't have been that terrific.

IF you had been together after the cruise? Who knows. If we had some ham, we could have some ham and eggs, if we had some eggs. My guess is, since there seems to be very little substance, it might not have worked out.

Why does it matter whether you gave him head or a hand job?

Answer 4

You sound like you just want someone to listen to your feelings so you can move on. That's perfectly fine. I am sure you two liked each other alot while you were together on the cruise, and that you guys shared a wonderful thing, and it is something you can always fondly remember. But like you said realistically, unless you live closer to each other, it is just not worth the time, effort and heartache to keep it going.

Find somebody wonderful (and close) that you can spend your time with like he is doing right now. Someone you can get together more often. :)

Answer 5

awwww. thats a really sweet story!!! He obviously liked you on the cruise, I think it is the fact that you hooked up with his brother, maybe his brother really likes you and has told this guy all about it, then this guy will obviously not want to hurt his brothers feelings by pairing up with you. I know it might sound hard but he has to think of his brother they've been together longer then you've been on the scene.
whatever happens i wish u all the best

Answer 6

Yes, it sounds like he really liked you, but young love can be very confusing. There's no use discussing if you lived where he did, because you don't live near him. Long distance relationships CAN work, but they take A LOT of work, so I wouldn't say anything to him unless you're really intent on putting in 115% effort into a relationship with this boy.

Answer 7

Sounds like your a little to fast to let things happen. He could have liked you but he could have been using you because you were there and available. Doesnt sound like either of you tried to make it a real relationship just a cruise ship booty call with a little extra visit.

Answer 8

It sounds like he likes you alot and is just wishing you lived near him. As a guy, let me say that you should just tell him where you are (physically and mentally) and see what the future holds.

He would probably be with you if you guys lived closer and would have probably been with you after the cruise.

Good luck, he sounds like a great guy.

Answer 9

No it does not sound to me like he likes you. I think he used on the cruise for nothing but a good time and sex.

Answer 10

His behavior sounds like he really likes you but a guy can act that way if he thinks he has at chance getting a piece. As for it working out it's possibility, only time will tell.