my husband's(been married 3 mons) son from his 1st marrage lives with us half the time and the other half time with his mom.when he comes over he expects my husband to drop everything and play with him the whole time he is with us.if my husband does not he makes my husband feel guilty by saying things like its my day to be with you so you need to play with me.he also gets very jealous if my husband turns his attention to me if only for a minute.we both spend a great deal of time with him but its just not practical for my husband to spend all his time with him playing.he has always been a only child and has a hard time not being the center of attention.also i'm not new to him i have been with his dad since he was small and he does not remember his parents together.the older he is getting the worse he is getting too.how can i get my hus to not feel guilty when he can't play with his son 24/7.plus what can we do to make him behave when my hus has to do something the son does not like?
2007-01-17 08:14:45 · 2 answers · asked by linda7paulean 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
well he is old enough to be sat down and have a talk with him.He has to know that you and your Husband Love him Very Much but have things they have to get done during the day.Dinner time is a good time if you don't mind kids in the kitchen to help you with dinner and you would be spending time together.Set some rules for him right them down and explain them to him and have him sign the paper and have the consqencies on tehre when he breaks the rules,when he says it is not fair get out that paper and show him what he agreed to.Try making some time for just him and his Dad like an hour or 2.Good Luck
2007-01-17 08:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time for him to adjust to his new way of life. Right now he feels he is in a power struggle. Best thing is to do things with him together. Another good hint is to talk to your husband. When you do things together with this young child the two of you need to show as much attention to each other as you do him. He will learn it is equal.
2007-01-17 08:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋