my husband's(been married 3 mons) son from his 1st marrage lives with us half the time and the other half time with his mom.when he comes over he expects my husband to drop everything and play with him the whole time he is with us.if my husband does not he makes my husband feel guilty by saying things like its my day to be with you so you need to play with me.he also gets very jealous if my husband turns his attention to me if only for a minute.we both spend a great deal of time with him but its just not practical for my husband to spend all his time with him playing.he has always been a only child and has a hard time not being the center of attention.also i'm not new to him i have been with his dad since he was small and he does not remember his parents together.the older he is getting the worse he is getting too.how can i get my hus to not feel guilty when he can't play with his son 24/7.plus what can we do to make him behave when my hus has to do something the son does not like?
2007-01-17 08:13:41 · 4 answers · asked by linda7paulean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you are talking about the things that make 2nd marriages "not work". If you continue to feel this way and he continues to do what he is doing...and the kid is more spoiled everyday, then you are going to grow to resent this. It won't get any better by itself. This is why God intended us to only marry once (I'm sorry, but it's true) I only hope the best for all three of you. Maybe if you try and play along with them some and set some ground rules. Also it might help if he invites a friend over some to divert his attention off his Dad so much. Good luck.
2007-01-17 08:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like his mom might have something to do with this. Like say.. you know when you are with your dad he is supposed to spend all him time and attention on you and only you. This does happen and gives the children the wrong idea of what parents are for. Sit the child down and explain to him how it works and that Daddy was not put on this earth to entertain him.
2007-01-17 08:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U knew that he had a brat child before u married him thats when those issues should of been dealt with before u got married. U made your bed now lie in it.
2007-01-17 13:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋