So a few girls and a few guys are saying mean things to this girl i know and think is amazing, i want to give her a shoulder to cry on etc but i dont know if this will make me her good friend (i am trying to get her to like me, and maybe trying to date her but she doesnt know this) and i dont bwant to get placed into the "too good of friends to go out with" list. so how should i help her put ewithout seeming too needy or clingy, i need to seem like im not always there so she will think about me and like me you know? my question is what should i say to her along the lines of "im here for you" without making her feel weird because i have only known her for a month and without being too friendly???? please help
2007-01-17 08:01:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn' t matter if you turn into a friend or a b/f. If you care about this girl than you should be helping her.
2007-01-17 08:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by kincade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a mess, you have no idea what ur saying because your contradicting yourself. You say u want to date her but dont want to be good friends...but don't u think when u go out with someone u do become good friends? And why do u want her to think of u, wouldn't she do that anyways if u were there. Be friendly, be a friend...tell her just that I'm here for u...bet you'll get alot further with the truth, than with games and lies!
2007-01-17 08:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by laura k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, just ask her out. Be like hey I really like you. Would you like to go out for dinner sometime. If you really like her don't beat around the bush. Honesty and having the balls to say it if very attractive in a male to us girls, just don't be cocky about it. We know that when you guys do this that you are putting yourself up to possible rejection and how difficult that is for anyone male or female. If she is being made fun of that's almost a sure yes on her part because her self-esteem is really now right now. and I can assure you it would be a big ego boostfor her. She won't think your weird. She be flattered.
2007-01-17 08:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply say "I'm here if you ever want to talk." That way, she can come to you without things being akward. If she doesn't, it was just a friendly offer and only shows her that she can trust you. Compliment her too, it's about the nicest thing a girl can get when she's down.
2007-01-17 08:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never thought, "He is too good a friend to date." As a matter of fact, my man IS my best friend, and I think that is how it should be. Although... I probably didn't think that as a kid... how old are you? Oh, well. Anyhow, help her. Give her a hug and tell her you're there if she needs to talk. Stand up to those guys. Tell them to lay off. And completely ignore the douche who needs sex to help anyone!
2007-01-17 08:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be the shoulder to cry on. you will be but into the friends zone. That just defeats the purpose of wanting to date her. I would take her out. Hang out with her. Come at her like you like her, and want to date her. That's what she has friends for, to tell her woes too. I would state to her that you like her, and that you want to date her. This way she knows that your not trying to be the friend but trying to be her boyfriend. Hope this helps.
Thanks.
2007-01-17 08:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you speak to these guys and girls who are talkin trash??? You don't have to confess your hidden love for the one who is being ostracized but you can be a gentleman on the downlo ya know...
and who knows, bet it'll do some good, and if she was to find out later who stood up for her without seeking instant recogniztion....well...it sounds a lil romantic, heroic...etc...not a bad start....
2007-01-17 08:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her out first. Give her something normal and the trust from her will come later.
2007-01-17 08:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well yeah help her i mean really it will show that u r and senstive guy that will stand up for her no matter what and that u will b there that is what a girl is looking for in a guy
2007-01-17 08:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by jbjessbess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋