i just seperated im 23 i started seeing a 38 yo who was seperated at the time we started seeing each other but now her husband moved back in and she is feeling guilty about continueing she says she wants to but when we do she keeps changing her mind cause she doesnt know what will happen to her if her husband finds out and throws her out how can i reassure her or should i just let it go
2007-01-17 07:56:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let her know that you care about her and you're willing to wait for a little while so she can get herself out of that situation, but you also need to tell her that you can't continue doing this as long as shes still with her husband b/c it's wrong and she needs to make a decision to be with just one person. Stand by her side though and help her as much as you can
2007-01-17 08:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 2 of you can't have a real relationship as long as the husband is in the picture, just as she & her husband can't make their marriage work as long as she considers you more than a friend. You really should step back & let her marriage take it's course without your influence on her heart or on his anger (it sounds like that marriage is on it's way to being over anyway) but let her know you'll be there for her as her friend, even tho you might be dating others. If the love between the 2 of you is strong, you won't fall for anyone else that you're dating & she won't be able to stay married to one she loves less. "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was"
2007-01-17 08:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by SmallVoiceInBigWorld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go before you get your head smashed in by her husband. You had no right to be intimate with her so long as she is married even if he was not living with her. Now that he is back with her you are a fool to keep up the relationship with her.
2007-01-17 08:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go ,u shouldn't be dating her if she was seperated it is obvious that she as sorted out her stuff with her husband or he wouldn't have moved in again,she is scared for a reason she wants to work it out with her husband.
2007-01-17 08:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by marsha w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go.
karma
what goes around comes around, how owuld you like to be 38 with your woman who you really want to make it work with and some young tight kid is all trying to get with her. What they have deserves a chance. You will find many more options out there
2007-01-17 08:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may have tons of problems, but I am ALWAYS the only one.
I don't go for that.
And believe me, I get wind of things pretty well with women's intuition, so yes, I've ben cheated on, and yes, I've found out.
I am the ONLY one.
If you keep telling yourself you're worth that, you won't find yourself in any mess like this again.
Not that it's your fault when it begins. Just that you can't let it go on.
2007-01-17 08:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buba, Start thinking with the head on your shoulders, not the one between your legs. At 38 she can't make up her mind???? When she does it won't be for a 23y/o
2007-01-17 08:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa. And I'm freaking out about dating an 18 year old and I'm 21. Your girl is a chomo.
2007-01-17 08:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go B. Gotta keep those types of relationships in context. Her Husband didn't force his way back in she let him back. you were probably just a fling.
Respeck
2007-01-17 08:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if she let him back in & feels guilty about you, that she's doin the deed with him too. She's a user let her go.
2007-01-17 08:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋