i have a b/f, ok. then there's this other guy who asked me out and i said ok but i have to break up with my other b/f. (i lied) i felt so bad 4 him cuz he likes me ALOT! and i really love my b/f and i don't wanna go out with this other loser.
this guy just now asked me, "do we still go out?" and i said, "well i still need to talk 2 my b/f." and he said, "but we do though, right?" and i'm like, "i guess." and i don't really wanna go with him , i wanna stay with my b/f but i don't wanna hurt this guy's feelings!!! help me!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 07:49:28 · 80 answers · asked by >>Rican[Mamii♥]<< 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him that you didn't realize it would be so hard to break it off with your bf and you decided to stay in your current relationship. tell him you are flattered and sorry for leading him on.
Next time just smile and say, "Sorry...I'm taken!"
2007-01-17 07:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by ssssss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The simplest and easiest way to handle this is to tell the truth. Sit down and explain to this boy that asked you out, that you really care about your b/f and want to stay with him... Make it absolutely clear that you and this other guy are NOT going out. Yes, it may hurt is feelings, but it will hurt him less than if you lead him to believe you are going to go out with him. Just don't call him a loser because that will definately hurt his feelings. Then, make sure you talk to your boyfriend about it. Open communication is the key to making great relationships last. Keeping secrets is a sure-fire way of ending relationships!
P.S. Don't tell the other guy that you just want to be friends unless you really mean it or you could get stuck with him as your new best friend. He may also take it as an invitation to try to get close to you and he may even try to break you two up.
2007-01-17 10:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Alisha H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never ever had said OK to the guy who asked you out. Sounds to me you actually LIKE teh attention youve got yourself into. If you really did want to be with your boyfriend and 'Love' your bf as you claim, you would nevr have done this behind his back. How would you feel if behind your bck he started dating some other chick? You also say that you dont want to hurt the guys feelings yet you refer to him as a LOSER which makes me think you dont even like the guy. It'll hurt ALOT LESS if you just tell the 'Loser' that you dont want to be with him. If you end up in the situation everyone is oging to get hurt including yourself. Youre pretty much just leading the 'Loser' on and in the long run, hes going to get HIS heart broken.
2007-01-17 09:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first thing is have to say is:
everyone else who answered QUIT BEING SO HARD ON HER. ok can't you tell that she is already sad enough, she posted this question for answers and good advice not for people to call her names!!!!
ok this is a pretty bad situation but the more lies you tell the worse it will get so you have to stop it ASAP and get it over with sooner before you cause yourelf or anyone else pain. also no offence but you siad yes to that guy because you didn't want to hurt him but imagine how he will feel when he finds out plus you aare also hurting yourelf and the other guy. i think that next time you see the guy just tell him that your really sorry but you just can't break up with your other boyfriend,and you can't cheat on him.he will be sad for a while but it will heal up and he will always find someone else to love. im still not sure if you should go tell your boyfriend the truth because he might get really mad and dump you after all the trouble you've been through. so i think you should just hide it after all you did dump the other guy. you will figure out wheter or not to tell your bf the truth. don't worry its ok.♥ good luck♥
2007-01-17 08:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by MiSSkASiA♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. you sure got yourself into a fine mess with this one. You should have just told him your involved. That would have ended the entire mess. You don't like him & when this gets back to your boyfriend mmmmmmmmmmmm your in BIG trouble girl. Go to this guy & tell him you have a bf and u love him but u didn't want to hurt him & your sorry you lied and led him to believe you'd date him. And then PRAY your man don't find out. Or better yet, tell your man what happened and that u just didnt know what to say as to not hurt the guy. AND BEG his forgivness
2007-01-17 07:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only stringing this guy along. Tell him you already have a relationship that is important to you and that you are not available at this time to date or socialize with others unless as part of a group which includes your b/f. Your need to handle this as an adult and quit playing games. You are playing with fire and could very likely lose what you have . Set things right and you will feel better
2007-01-17 08:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to hurt feelings, if you like one more than the other then you should stay with the one you like more. Whatever you do don't feel bad because you hurt his feelings, he may even try to put you on a guilt trip, just ignore it. If he likes you this much he can find someone else to like. Do the right thing, even you said it yourself " i don't really want to go with this other loser." so just ignore his guilt trips and tell him you can't see him. Hope this helps, good luck.
2007-01-17 07:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by ~(*) Loving Life (*)~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't go through life without hurting someone else and getting hurt yourself. If you really love your boyfriend and he loves you, I wouldn't break up with him just to try and make another guy happy. That's not really the way love works. I don't see any reason to break up with your current boyfriend. Just tell the other guy that you're sorry, but you love your boyfriend and enjoy being with him. It may hurt his feelings, but don't try to lead him on. It'd only hurt him more in the end.
2007-01-17 07:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mizuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend and dont want to hurt his feelings by breaking up with him then why would you be worried about the other guys feelings and not your bf.
You know what you need to do, stop leading both of them on or u could end up alone.
2007-01-17 07:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal that you should feel bad for him, but it's not an obligation to accept any guy who asks you out. Tell him that you have a boyfriend, simple and easy. If he doesn't get the picture, you caving in won't make him learn and will only hurt him in the future.
2007-01-17 07:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to grow up a bit. If you are in a steady relationship, why would you lead someone else on? Or, if you were seeking something outside of your relationship, why stay with your boyfriend? Playing with people's emotions is a dangerous game and chances are you will lose...make up your mind who you want to be with and let the other person go or just be single and date.
2007-01-17 07:53:53 · answer #11 · answered by MissDiva1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋