I have twin girls that will be 3 in a few days. One pretty much trained herself and just went on her own 6 months ago. The other will sit on the toilet but won't go. When she has to go she goes anywhere other than the toilet (rug, etc.) We have had her in underwear during the day and when she has to go she asks for a pull up and then we take her to the toilet but she wont go! She will hold it and go on the floor or carpet. Now just today her twin (who has been in underwear day/night for 6 months) saw her sister go on the carpet and decided to go too! It seems she's ready since she asks for the pull up and will sit on the toilet but when it's time to go she gets off of it and goes on the carpet. We've tried this off and on for the last couple months and go back to the pull ups but decided to really stick with it and have been doing this for 3 days with no luck or even just a liitle luck on her part. We praise her for even just sitting on the toilet, give her a book, & have a Dora seat.
2007-01-17 07:48:13 · 5 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Positive Reinforcement! I have a coworker that used the method of placing a jar of M&M's on the back of the toilet. Every time her daughter used the toilet she was allowed to pick out three M&M's as a treat. This worked really well for her because her daughter wasn't allowed to eat candy in her normal diet. The M&M's were a treat that she looked forward to, so she started using the toilet more and more often. Also, I would suggest ignoring the undesireable behaviors, as hard as that is. If your daughters get attention for it, regardless of if it is positive or negative attention, they'll keep doing it. It's possible that the twin that started copying the bad behavior did so because her sister's bad behavior was getting more attention than her own good behavior. So, she reverted back to doing something that would steal the attention back. Just praise them when they do something good and let them earn something that is important to them. Then ignore when they do something "bad." They won't get any satisfaction out of it, so it'll eventually stop. I hope this helps in some way. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-17 08:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by TZebar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by sicilia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the pull ups all together. Now I know this will sound cruel, but it worked for me 4 times. Keep her in undies all day. When she wets make her stay in them for a few (maybe 5) minutes or so. Ask her how a wet bottom feels. She won't like it. My girls all potty trained quickly once they realized that they were going to be stuck having to wear wet undies (even if it was only for a short time) instead of being put back in a diaper or pull up.
Also, don't reward her until she actually goes in the toilet. And when you do reward her make it something really small, like a sticker. Stay stubborn. It will work out.
2007-01-17 07:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by cutie_cutie_74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something I noticed that worked, that my mom did as a parent, a day care provider and early childhood teacher, she would park their little butts on the toilet and would SIT THEIR in the bathroom with them UNTIL they finally realized that she wasnt playing....and they would want to get up and she sit them right back down, they would cry, kick, scream, but eventually they did it...also does your daughter have any older female cousins? maybe you can show them as an example or even yourself! I remember at a young age, I WANTED TO DO EVERYTHING MY MOM DID, including using the bathroom and she'd let me sit their and watch her and she teach me....according to my mother I was potty trained at 13 months! So here is some of the ideas my mother shared with me, I hope that they benefit you!
2007-01-17 08:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy_poo516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried offering rewards? Everytime she goes wee she gets one M & M and everytime she goes poopie she gets 1 Marshmellow.
If she does it for a whole week she gets a new toy that she really wants.
Also, I made my kids help clean up their accidents. That changed everything because they sure didn't like the clean-up.
2007-01-17 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by fizzents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋