Ok, i have a bf, which i lived with before and everything... we separated and now we are bk together. we are having a lot of trouble since we started going out again. since there's a past and we did many things between that time apart u know. so before i got bk with him, i had this bf who left me cause he was so tire of listening to me talking about this actual bf i have right now. when we started going out i told him i had not forgottem my old bf, but he excepted that. now since i noticed getting bk wasn't what i thought it would be, i miss my old bf the one who left me. we talked this weekend, cause my bf had broken up with me, and i've been thinking about him alottt. my bf and i are bk together but i can't stop thinking about the ex. it's just that my ex was so loving, so nice, helpful, friendly. my bf now is kinda of hard to deal with, i thought that all those years meant something, but i actually feel empty. what do i do??????
2007-01-17 07:44:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go back with the one you really want. I kinda have been through the same thing before, after you leave a relationship you feel like you may have lost someone special and in a sense that is true you may even reminice that the previous relationship wasn't that bad when actually it was bad. then you do the same thing with your next boyfriend in reverse. I know how you feel. It's really hard to get out of that trap mindset. I don't know why it's so hard even when your own logic tells you it's so simple. It hurts to invest alot of years in someone and it is natural to want them back at a weak moment. Even when things are great with the current man. I think it kinda goes with that old saying have your cake and eat it too. You love them both and you don't want to leave either one so you go back and forth until someone puts a stop to it. I'm married 10 yrs to a real asshole and I fell in love with his best friend and I want to leave, but I know despite my husbands flaws I will always have some love for him even though I know I would be so much happier with his friend it's the whole idea of giving up and letting go process that I have thought about until I was sick. If you find the cure let me know.
2007-01-17 08:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some time alone to sort out your emotions. Take about a month off and just get your emotions together. Then see what's going on.
2007-01-17 07:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for what you want and don't settle for less.
Although you should have realized what you had (your current ex), it may not be too late. Break it off with your current boyfriend and try for your ex. If it doesn't work out, there are others.
2007-01-17 07:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave both of them alone or make up your mind and decide which one you actually wanna be with. when you were with your ex you kept thinking about this other guy and now that your not with your ex you want back with him. make up your mind before you hurt both of them to the point that you can't fix it and there is no going back to either one of them. good luck!
2007-01-17 07:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to step back and look at what is going on? Who treats you better and who makes you laugh and smile? You sound like you have 2 guys that like you and your alittle mixed up. listen to your heart and follow it
2007-01-17 07:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2007-01-17 07:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him its over and find another man who is sweet and loving. just don't talk about ur exs at all.
2007-01-17 07:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to your ex
2007-01-17 09:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel you never know he might feel the same way
2007-01-17 07:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel The Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you forget about both and move on
2007-01-17 07:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by mindi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋