i cant stand her for the reason shes so nice but stabs me right in the back as soon as im not around, she would kiss me and dance right before calling her son and telling him a bunch of lies about me to start a fight between us. she would sit and talk to me and try to make me understand shes my best friend then she would go and talk about me to the servents and pay them to tell her what i do while she's out. she slapped me and tried to kill me then told her son that i bit her and attacked her and she was helpless can someone plz help me give me some sorta advice, this lady is a serious hazard and i dont want to lose my husband,
2007-01-17 07:16:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell your husband, if he loves you, then he will understand and will say something. Or better still, if she is that bad, then get your husband to tell all of his brothers and sisters that what she is saying is not true, and if she says stuff again, then they will know that there is nothing going on.
Does that make sense?!?!good!
2007-01-17 07:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Klick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is fact and what is heresay? How do you know that she is saying and doing these things behind your back? It may be that others are jealous of your relationship with her, because you state that you two get along great together. Maybe others are telling you lies because you both get along so well and they are attempting to upset you and get you fighting with her. Go to her and talk to her when there will be no interuptions. Tell her how you feel about her and how you appreciate the way she treats you so well. THen tell her what others have said to you. Tell her that you want to work things out but are having trouble understanding what is going on. Do not accuse her of anything. Just present the facts. If necessary call a family meeting with all those parties involved and settle this in an adult manner. Try your best to bring all persons together and explain that you want to build a good relationship with all and try to get to the root of the problem. Then resolve to not listen to this gossip from others anymore. If your mother-in-law has something to say to you or vise versa then it should be handled directly with no other parties involved. IF others continue this, consider it gossip and have no part of it.
2007-01-17 07:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband really knows how you are and loves you he will take what is being said as rubbish but if not I suggest you move on cause obviously you have a mommas boy and mom can say or do no wrong and if there is servants in the house there is obviously money to gain in the long run so you might as well pack your bags now and get going cause he is going to do whatever mom says to do point blank. Or you can sit back and ignore everything and live miserably cause that is how your monster in law is going to make it for you.
2007-01-21 04:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you have a chat with her whilst your husband is in the other room, only don't tell her that.
He can hear things with his own ears then, so if she does make up a story he will know the truth. If she does lie to him after i suggest he confronts her, with you by his side. This might make her see you are a 'united front' and her silly games just don't work. This should put your mind at rest, providing he agrees to do it that is. Good Luck !
2007-01-17 07:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lad I'm seeing is seeking divorce 'cos of his inlaws sending him death threats & abuse, so I sympathise. All I can suggest is what I said to him: Just try to be nice, I know it's hard but you may win her over with it.If it continues, ring the police (not the 999/911 numbers but the private ones) & explain that your life maybe at threat. You don't have to supply your name, but they will ask for some details. Good luck honey. xxx
2007-01-18 02:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy solution for you. Completely ignore her, don't even knowledge her existence. Don't talk to her, don't see her, don't be in the same room as her. This is the only long term solution for you. Plus your Husband can't really complain, its not as if your actively fight with her.
The ***** is not going to change, she's not even worth the energy it takes to slap her hard in the head.
2007-01-18 02:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him your discomfort also tell him you love her and that you hope you and her can meet in the middle somewhere to be friends one day. That will help your cause. Onh and if she tried to kill you then you should probably tell him. Or the cops. Recored some of the things she says to you secretly if your husband dosnt believe you.
2007-01-17 07:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by LEAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only suggest you tell her to get a steppin out of the house, or you leave! Does your husband believe her? if so he's a prat too.
If it was me, i'd give her something to moan about then pack her bags and hail a cab.
If she wont leave and mummy's boy wont believe you, get your case ready and some money and GOOOOOOOOO!
2007-01-17 07:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age previous project of MIL gained't bypass away so somewhat , although that is for ur husband to intervene and style out else that is going to snow ball. more effective perfect stay away then and refuse to visit India !
2016-10-15 09:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to your husband to stand up for you. He married you and now he should stand by your side. I think if she can't be descent then you need to distance yourself from her. I know that's easier said than done but hopefully your husband will understand. Good luck.
2007-01-17 07:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by slo1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋