I don't know what to do and I am so confused.
I do not know what the right decision is and why.
I have dated my bf for 6 years on and off.
Last year he dated a girl and would not come back to me. Finally he did and we moved in together.
Their relationship bothered me and eventually I found out she had been calling him and he gave her his new number.
I kicked him out and he had no where to go.
I feel like I should offer him a place to live, stay and come back because I should have handled the situation more like an adult.
We have bills together and need to worry about straightening that out.
I do not know if I want to be single, be with him, give him time and space or what.
I want to help him - maybe until he can find a place of his own.
What should I DO?
2007-01-17 07:16:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he was seeing her again then why isn't he moving in with her? And you say he FINALLY came back to you --- were you hounding him during the time you were apart wanting him back? Frankly, I think you prematurely kicked him out - it may have been innocent with the other girl but now that you have I wouldn't invite him back - and it's too hard to get on with things when you have the old item still under your feet - once the trust is gone, the relationship is over and it sounds to me like you're too concerned with what he's doing and been up to instead of what you're doing. You can still work out the financial situation without letting him move back in. Good luck
2007-01-17 07:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm this is tough. All I can say is follow your heart. BUT DONT BE A FOOL. If he's going to be with you he needs to be with you and only you. What was his reasoning on getting the girls number. I would defeninetly ask him that. Ask him how far does he want the relationship to go? Tell him what you like and dislike about the relationship and tell him to do the same. Communication is the key in relationships. I hope this helps and good luck to you sweetie!!
2007-01-17 15:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by EAZY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have handled it like an adult also and told his ex that he was with you now and not given her his number.
My vote is to stick to your guns. He clearly is showing that he cannot handle being in a committed relationship with you. If you invite him back, then it may just make matters worse. Make the steps to move on, including maybe getting a new place.
2007-01-17 15:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Atleast let him in. You care about him & I guess he cares about you too. If he gets some call, whats his mistake? Moreover, why you girls are so emotional? His ex is just a friends now who wants him to remain in contact .. whats the big deal? Start thinking out of the box.
If you cant live with him now, get the bills seperated if that bothers you.
2007-01-17 15:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out, and let him worry about a place to live.
2007-01-17 15:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋