Theres a guy I've been talking to for about 4 months. I had a bf when we met but we clicked instantly. It was crazy how into e/other we were.Since I had a bf though he started talking to other females,I couldnt say anything cause it wasnt my place. Well I've been single for 2wks now.About a wk ago we planned a date where he ended up bailing out on me at the VERY last minute and I mean I was parked in his neighborhood and everything.That was it for me so I stopped taking his calls, he would text I woudnt answer.It lasted for a wk where he was blowing up my phone with texts,calls, vmails.I finally decided to answer him & he apologized blah blah blah. I gave him another chance.Now that I gave him another chance I notice hes been talking to this one chick that I knew about way more than me, basically giving her way more attention like hes into her more.I dont like being 2nd best so why the hell did he make such a fuss to talk to me again?
2007-01-17 07:12:25 · 24 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His reason for bailing out was that he was "just too nervous" and needed time to wind down. We had a date at 5PM, he should have just called ahead and let me know it wasnt good for him. But he just didnt answer my calls and then text me that he couldnt. He claims he wants to do whatever possible to make up for dissing me on that date, but it doesnt really seem like hes putting much effort into it. Its kinda like I was getting more attention from him when I wasnt even talking to him.Look I just dont want someone to be playing on and off with me. One minute hes all into me and wooing me like crazy and the next I get the shoulder? If you think one way about a certain person you shouldnt lead them on and then give them the cold shoulder.
2007-01-17 07:14:48 · update #1
He's a loser. Move on.
2007-01-17 07:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your right , You shouldn't be second best. This guy isn't it, he's already proved that. Sound's like he's a busy guy , honey there are so many people in this world and if that's how he going to treat you now... he will always treat you that way . What you see is what you get. Sorry to say but true. The answer to about making a fuss, people always want what they cant have ,espically when it comes to sex and dating. Go find you a guy who will give you what you want. It's YOUR choice.. no one elses. Go in search of your man :) Good luck.
2007-01-17 07:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are answering your own question. Your right, why did he even bother making such a fuss to talk to you again. It sounds like he wants you and others too. You can either talk to this guy and find out what he wants from you or let him go and don't look back. You deserve better! Good Luck
2007-01-17 07:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably just wants to be your friend and maybe the reason he made a big fuss about talking to u again is that he just doesn't want u to be mad at him. If u really want him to pay more attention to u as a girl friend u should start treating him like just a gut friend and start seeing other guys. He will start to realize he lost his opportunity to have u as his girl and will start to take u seriously. But while your dating other guys if u find one that u really like and he treats u better than this guy than don't blow him off u could end up ruining your future.
2007-01-17 07:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Phyched4Christ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK..first of all..STAY AWAY FROM THIS LOSER!! yeah, you may like him, but put that crap aside!! the only reason he did all this was to get attention from you!! like, when you wouldn't talk to him he wanted you bad..because that whole theory about playing "hard to get" is TRUE!! the less YOU give the more HE wants!! that is exactly why all of this has/is happening! and this other chick he is talking to or w-e...he's doing that and trying to "woo" you in just so he can go tell everyone that 2 girls r fighting over you...and that he's such a "pimp"...guys r retarded (not all of them!! but most of them r) they will do ANYTHING for attention!! be the bigger person..drop this guy...you prolly don't need to be seen with him anyways...if he tries to woo you back DO NOT EVER GO BACK TO HIM...b-c that is what he wants, is for you to come "crawling" to him...trust me! good luck honey!!
2007-01-17 07:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl stop being so self centered! You had a man remember? Why is it wrong for him to be seeing other girls? Y'all are not dating currently right? And if you wanna be first you gotta make him want you more than the other girl. For me that doesn't mean sex ... it means showing off your killer qualities that attracted him to you in the first place. work it girl ... and if you must be first place all the time ... you should work on that ... there's always gonna be somebody out there better than you are at something ... just work what you got like a diva and can't nobody tell you you're not number one ... long as you understand that you're really not:)
2007-01-17 07:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
been in that boat before. nothing happened he just stopped. I didn't bother to text back (playing the game). but I lost him. I think maybe you obsessed over him? if you didn't then he's weird. Or might like someone else, or maybe that thing did have to do with you.
2016-05-24 00:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him, he's a manipulator. Why would you want to hang with someone who doesn't have the common courtesy to call and say "sorry I can't make it tonight". You sound way too intelligent to accept that type of thoughtless behavior.
2007-01-17 07:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't even bother. He was with the other girl when you was calling him that day. You don't need us to tell you what to do. I don't know why he would go thru the trouble of contacting you, but I say let it go. Its a game to him. If you don't want to play the game, get off the board.
2007-01-17 07:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt let him get to me like that. Definetly dont tell him your jealous, I would just move on with your life its doesnt bother you. That will get his attention more than any thing. I think age matters too. How old is this guy?
2007-01-17 07:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lola 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he's trying to make you jealous and prove to you that he can have more than one person interested in him too. Your circumstances were different to his because you were already in a r/ship when you met. He, on the otherhand is not in a r/ship and is purposely talking to other girls and trying to keep his options open. You should confront him, ask him if he is interested and if he continues to talk to other girls and cancel your dates, then he clearly isn't worth it.
2007-01-17 07:19:17 · answer #11 · answered by macy411 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋