Cant get over ex??

Question

i have been single for six months after a 2 yr relationship...and i absoluetly love it. but for some reason i compare all the new guys to my ex. i know that this is normal but the thing is, is that i have been out on dates and have had plenty of potential suitors. but for some reason i do not want to commit to just talking to one guy. and i tend to start pushing guys away. i have stopped all contact with my ex but the last time i did talk to him he ended the conversation with "who knows, if it is ment to be then it is ment to be". are these words what are making me push other guys away? i feel like i am over him but this is my first broken heart...am i truly over him?

Answer 1

You'll never forget your first heartbreak. It's one of those milestones like a sweet 16 or 21. It's something you'll always hold onto in your memory. You probably will get over him eventually. Whatever will be will be.

Don't worry about not being ready to be monogamous yet. Give it time.

Do what a single girl does, have fun.

Answer 2

Although your ex gave you pretty good advice - if it is meant to be it will be - but on the other hand, it could have been a way for him to have you hanging on for something that isn't really meant to be but will stagnate you from going forward.

The issues of why you broke up - I am sure - are still there and will probably be the reason why you won't get back together or stay together if you do.

I don't think you not wanting to commit to another guy is a problem. If you want to enjoy your singleness then do that for now. Being single will get old and you will settle down eventually. (only protect yourself to the fullest extent if you decide to be intimate with anyone)

If you have an idea of what your ideal man should be then that is ok. But you shouldn't look at it as if you are comparing them to your ex. He may have been a great guy at one time but again, there had to be a reason you broke up and have stayed apart for these six months. Look at it as if you don't want to settle for just anyone. But, remember no one is perfect. Not even you. But what you need to look for is someone that is perfect FOR YOU and you are perfect FOR HIM.

Let your past stay in the past. There are a few stories out there when old lovers get back together and everything is great, but there are more stories of how it was just a waste of time to rekindle old flames and from the way it sounds to me your ex is in no hurry to rekindle flames with you and was just trying to tell you something that will make you feel better and just take his most recent conversation with you as friendship and not to push for something more.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Six months is kind of early to be starting another relationship, that's why you don't want to commit. It would be a good idea to see guys casually as friends until you feel better about dating. There are also Divorce Care or Divorce Recovery classes that you can take to help you move forward.

Answer 4

You just don't want to get hurt again, that's why you push everyone away. You are afraid to get too close, so you go on a couple dates but that's it you move onto someone new. I do the same thing. When you find Mr. Right, you will know, this is something that can not be rushed. Just take care of yourself and be safe.

Answer 5

if this is your first broken heart than you will never really get over him we all still have a little love left for our first love, but you need to remember why you broke up this might help you to not miss him so much. as far as you not wanting to commit to any one man well this is normal , if you just came out of a 2 yr. relationship you need to have time to relax and get back to you, when you meet the right guy you will know
good luck and god bless

Answer 6

You might be over him, but you'll never forget what it feels like to get your heart broken. I'd say it's a little soon to expect yourself to be getting too involved with anyone else. It takes extra time for that part of the process after a breakup for a lot of people.