What would be the Best way To handle a situation were your With Someone and you really like them and they really like you and everything's going so smoothly and well then All of a sudden Their Ex's pop back into the Picture calling them, Texting them or trying to see them, and this Ex is someone they Had a pretty good relationship with but broke up for certain reasons that didn't have to do with Fighting or Cheating on each other, What is the Best Way to handle this situation and what should be done?
2007-01-17 07:01:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would play it cool. It wouldn't be good to show that you are overly jealous of their new found friendship.
As time goes on and you see things possibly progressing, I would mention it in an non-argumentative way. Just to be sure of where you two stand.
I know it may be easier said then done, but you really can't afford to have your mate thinking that you are a nag and may be better off with the ex.
Best of luck
2007-01-17 07:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Drea G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough position to be in. Well, you could just break up with this person and allow her to get back with the ex or you could do whats in your heart and stand up for what you want. You are feel n this person and apparently this person is feel n you otherwise you wouldn't be together and if they are ex's its for a reason regardless of what that reason was. You are with this person now. Ask this person how does she really feel about you and does this person think there is a slight chance that she will try to reconnect with the ex. Just be honest about your feelings and how you feel about the situation. Communication is key to any good relationship.
2007-01-17 15:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that the person has no control over the ex thats calling them. true it's not fair for you, but it's not fair to him. The past relationship is over with him, and he with you for a reason. Because he likes you. Not every past relationship has to end badly. Sometimes people are better as friends or aquantinces then as boyfriend or girlfriend. Eventually the ex will get the hint and drop it. But just talk to your partner and tell them how you feel. If he/she really cares about then the ex will not even bother you. Hope this helps.
2007-01-17 15:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should realize if that person really liked you then this wouldn't even be an issue. Sounds like that person wants to check out what could have been with the ex. I would suggest you move on. Good luck.
2007-01-17 15:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is that you stop seeing this person you really like. To many problems and issues and it sounds like that the two of them are not over one another. You are just going to be caught up in the middle of it, and end up getting hurt. These two need time to figure out if they still want to be with one another, and you are just a rebound. So sorry.....
2007-01-17 15:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I can relate. I chose to let them handle it. They broke up for a reason and most likely one does not want to be together anymore with their ex. I found letting them handle what came up was better then getting involved. Unless you feel that is messing up your relationship, let them handle it for now.
2007-01-17 15:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been going through this myself, in my case him andhis ex were together for 11 years. I asked my boyfriend to take some time to seriously consider whether or not he would like a second chance with her. I said if he wanted to be with me, that he should be focused on me and him and that doesn't involve texting and talking to his ex. I gave him space, and he decided that him and I is what he wants, and is more important. Once you have him explain this to his ex - she will hopefully get lost and move on.
2007-01-17 15:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by coniferc 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that someone should learn how to handle the situation with this person...however I think that they like the fact that they are wanted and that is why they allow this to continue
2007-01-17 15:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell that person to bakc off. and the person you are with needs to realize that it is not ok for them to be with you and for them to be carrying on with an ex. put your foot down or you will be walked all over.
2007-01-17 15:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Heather F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your girl friend if it would be O.K. if you can go talk to them. Then if she says yes go up to him and tell him how you feel. Or ask your girl friend if she wants to talk to him. The point is ask your girl friend!!!
2007-01-17 15:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Dave Grohl Wanna Be!!!! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋