at what point do you know your in a relationship?

Question

I have never taken a relationship serious enough to go the long haul.Now I have a friend that wants us to just take things slow and Im not for sure how to do this.Like most we have already had sex. Hes a really nice guy and stays on me about my appearance and how I carry myself around others.Like telling me I should wear a skirt and wear my long hair down instead of in a ponytail.When I go to see him which is 3 hours away,he makes sure I have fun etc.He comes to my state once a month or more to see his family and take care of business.I called him one night to check on him and he sounded as if he was sleep and had a few drinks&was not that much interested in talking to me.When I told him he apologized&wanted to make it up to me.I told him I did'nt want to drive all the way there 4 dinner&drinks.We already planned 2 C eachother the weekend.then he apologized about 3 times on my voicemail 4 being greedy.At what point will I know if we are in a relationship?I felt the apologies uncall 4

Answer 1

when you are kind to each other and desire to be together and make plans to be together. dont know about the apologizing thing. that's just being gentile.

Answer 2

first, of all if he likes you,then he 's going to respect you.no matter which way you wear your hair,it doesn't matter. its not what on the outsided that counts. its the heart that most of all,
that's important to him.second, of all. he shouldn't care what you wear as long as you look ladylike and nice. never dress to please anyone but, yourself and god. because if you respect yourself god will let him respect you. so maybe you don't realiize when you are in a relationship.but always take one day at a time. its the small things in life that matter. keep eyes and ears open at all time and if he cares about you he will find that time to make the next date. if he want to be in a relationship with you I am sure he will express to you how he feels about you. so if its friendship leave it there until you are sure you are ready to go to the next level.

Answer 3

The statement you make about staying on you about your appearance sounds a bit controlling. Do you want to be in a relationship where he tells you what to wear, where to wear it, how to "carry" yourself around others, like you might embarrass him??? Best make sure you really want this control freak! It will surely just get worse.

Answer 4

Yea your together, i dont think that his apologies are uncalled for either.. let him if he was an a** on the phone.