What should i do? It's rare that i ask for relationship help. But, my bf came to me today telling me his ex gf showed up pregnant today and is claiming its his kid!!! Should i stay with the man i love, and let him figure this out on his own? or do i leave him and try and find another?
2007-01-17 06:53:34 · 8 answers · asked by Kataxenna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please. Someone contact me. I need someone to talk to that way, So i can reply back.
2007-01-17 07:05:01 · update #1
Also, Shall i remind some of you all. that this is his first GF and she happend to screw up my doing HIS FATHER ON HIS 18th birthday. He claims he was raped because he went to a party, and lied to me about all of it. I am really confused. he is being ignorant and a complete a$$ towards me for pushing questions to why he'd lie to me.
2007-01-17 07:09:35 · update #2
Why on earth would you leave him just because his ex girlfriend is pregnant? That's silly. He should make her get a paternity test, so that the knows the child is really his. If it is, there's nothing that can be done about it, what's done is done. You might have thoughts of this child causing problems with your relationship, but it won't unless you let it. Just keep in mind that just because his ex is pregnant, that gives her no right to be a third wheel. But, you should also keep in mind that this is his child, if he wants to see it on a sonogram, or see it born there's no harm in that. Just remember that he's there for the child, not his ex. You are allowed to go with him on these visits, unless she becomes irate and ignorant. Then it's probably best for you to remain in the hallway.
2007-01-17 07:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st get a DNA test.
This girl may be lying.
2nd How long have you all been together.
B/C is she is pregnant by him, he might have cheated
(if this is the case, than dump him)
3rd Have a serious sit down with your BF and explain to him how you feel.
4th Donot go on Maury. I dont' want to see you on there. (just adding a little humor to lighten up the situation)
Best wishes and good luck.
2007-01-17 07:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Guess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend came to you and informed you that he has some drama right now going on and he needs you to be aware of this. You heard that he wants you to stand by him on this. He is going to be very confused about all of this and he is also going to be spending a lot of time with the ex. You have to ask yourself if it's going to be worth it to invest all that time and energy just to have him go back to her. I wouldn't waste my time on this one. He is going to be all about her and the baby until it's born and even after if it's his baby. Be smart and find someone with no baggage. Thank you and good luck.
2007-01-17 07:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me as if he has been lying to you, not owning up to his behavior. If you stay with him you will gain all of these problems. Even if the child does not turn out to be his, he admitted to being with her, and even said he was raped. I not understand this. Please use your common sense. This relationship is headed for nothing but trouble.
2007-01-17 07:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you ve been with him for a long time, and trust him, ask if he has ever slept with her, if no, say i trust you and hug him. that should get the guilt going if he lied. i would stay with him till its a for sure that its true. does she look pregnant? if not she could just be trying to get him back my heart is with you:)
2007-01-17 07:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont leave him cause something that happened when yall wont together! so he did it they were together stick by him and be there for him but whatever you do dont stop him from seeing his child show him you really love him and will be faithfull to him even through the hard times!
2007-01-17 06:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by i needhim7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly love him, and he truly loves you, then you should stay. If you think there is a chance that they will get back together then ya'll should sit down and discuss things together.
2007-01-17 07:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question. Will you not like him any more if it is his kid?
2007-01-17 06:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋