I was at my best friends baby shower last weekend and her in-laws (not her mother in law, but all the aunts and cousins and even her sister in law) got themselves plastered. I thought it was so rude! Halfway through the shower they weren't even paying attention anymore, just chatting amongst theirselves. The best part is that no alcohol was served, they brought it themselves!
I was in a murderous rage, but I am pregnant myself and feeling a little moody. Just wanted to bounce it off some other people to get your opinions. I didn't slap them as I wanted, I politely asked my best-friends mother in law to discretely talk to them.
What would you have done?
2007-01-17 06:52:11 · 36 answers · asked by Noota Oolah 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes, my best friend of the last 20 years was mortified and cried for hours after that they had ruined something so special for her. No, only those women were drinking, I wouldn't because a) I'm pregnant and b) it was a baby shower.
2007-01-17 13:00:04 · update #1
The host was suppose to be the sister in law, one of the drunk ones, her mother took over.
2007-01-17 13:02:41 · update #2
oh boy! How rude! What are they, a bunch of rednecks that have never been to a baby shower before in their lives? I don't blame you for being upset! I feel terrible for your friend and I was not even there.
Did your friend's mother in law actually talk to them? Did they 'behave' afterwards? I personally would have stated at the door that no alcoholic beverages were allowed and asked them to leave them in their cars. However, if it was not your house and if you were not the one hosting the party, you probably did the right thing.
On the thank you cards, tell your friend to include "Thanks for the redneck shower. It was the first I've ever had!" LOL Just kidding....
2007-01-17 07:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on the family and if it was females only. I went to my sister-in-laws second baby shower and there were drinks served (she is not a drinker, never has been). We did the whole baby shower thing and then it turned into a party. But that was intended and that is what she knew would happen. I think the fact that they brought their own alcohol is very tacky and especially that they were drinking during the shower. The could have waited until afterwards if it were at a house and the family wanted to have a party or they could have went to the bar afterwards if it were at a restaurant. My key word being "afterwards" I think you did the right thing. They would probably listen to her mother-in-law more so than they would listen to you anyways. Good job not smacking them! I probably would have!
2007-01-17 07:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Corey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter who brought the alcohol, if it was there, it was served. Deoending on who gave the shower, who's house it was at, who sent the invitations, who hosted it, that person or persons is or are the one/ones to be upset. Infortunately, many people take any party or event as an excuse to drink. If I had hosted the shower, I would have mentioned that the behaviour was rude.
2007-01-17 07:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it well and even though I'm not pregnant, I would have been just as angry. A Baby Shower is not exactly the venue to BYOB and get plastered. I feel really sorry for your friend that she has in laws who don't care about her enough to pay attention to her at her own baby shower.
2007-01-17 06:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sara K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your poor friend! She must have been so upset. Were you the one hosting the baby shower? Then you could have asked them(nicely) to refrain from drinking. If you weren't the hostess, then it's not really your place to get involved. You should've just made sure that your friend was having a good time, keep talking to her and try and distract her from her obnoxious in-laws.
2007-01-17 07:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by rshegv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Maybe next time when the alcohol comes out you could politely say "sorry no alcohol please" and pick up the bottle and put it away. I have a no alcohol home and would tell anyone no smoking or drinking here, we have more fun without it! At someone elses house I would say "could you put it away until the shower is over?"
You did the best you could at the time!
2007-01-17 07:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have been upset too.. You actually have every reason to be upset, it wasn't a celebration for them, but a celebration for your friend and her new baby.
I think you did the best you could if it also affected the friend and her celebration mood. I think if the mother-in-law took your mood and your friends mood seriously, then she should have to tell the others something about their behavior. Usually when you get a lot of people together it's hard to grasp everyones attention.
2007-01-17 07:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget on the subject of the haters. a pal and that i had a bathtub for yet another buddy, and we lined a eating game. We have been all in our late 20's and purely winding up our Ph.D.s. because it exchange right into a blended crowd, we theory the adult males could relish a bottle beer chug. and that they did! It exchange into assorted relaxing. you purely fill the bottles, and the only to drink it the quickest wins. additionally, you additionally could make eating a effect of dropping a game. The asserting "infant" game is properly-known, and oftentimes executed with clothespins, yet you additionally could make all and sundry take a shot of beer or wine as a exchange (not liquor, as all of the travellers could be smashed very at once!). you may pin the call of a few infant merchandise on all and sundry's returned, and the final to wager theirs has to have a drink. that variety of element. have relaxing! not all infant showers must be like afternoon tea. If it fairly is this style of element your travellers could choose...decide for it! they are bringing presents, so they ought to get a solid outing of it!
2016-10-31 09:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by andry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who in their right mind would bring alcohol to a baby shower? This is so wrong. Were there kids there? This shows lack of respect to your friend. I hope she got mad and said something to them. Sounds like something my family would do.
2007-01-17 07:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by gigischildcare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal? It's not like it was an actual birthday party for the baby. Women don't usually have a few when they're at a little party? I think you're over reacting because you're pregnant. If you don't want them doing the same at your baby shower...you tell them before they get there.
2007-01-17 07:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋