What should I make of a girl that says I don't make her feel like her ex-fiance', yet she thinks I'm great?

Question

I think he was her first love, they were too bonded by sex, and he cheated on her right before they were to be married, twice.

Meanwhile, she says I have treated her like no other guy has ever treated her, she did not know someone like me existed, and is very attracted to me as well (her words).

She has gotten irritable with me because she says I compliment her too much and try too hard to fix her. She is very independent and has a food addiction. I am a recovering addict myself, with five months' sobriety. She is just getting into recovery.

What gives?

I would also add that I think she was abused verbally and maybe physically by this guy, and she recently had a one-night stand back with a 2nd guy who also abused her physically and verbally but with whom the sex again was good.

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to trade her in for a more appreciative one. If she told you that you don't make her feel like her ex-fiancee then you need to move on. You will never make her feel like that. She is basically telling you that the sex was better with him. I don't mean to sound so harsh, but you need someone to smack a little reality into you. I don't know what a food addiction is, but it sounds like that girl is addicted to sex and she is just replacing that with whatever else suits her. Stop being used and find someone who is going to love you as much as you love them. Thank you and good luck.