my bf is adamant that he never wants kids. he doesn't want the responsiblity. i would like to have a dozen but would be happy with two and have no problem with the level of responsiblity kids require...i was a nanny for several years and although it is not the same as being a mom, i know how much work, patience, and dedication children need.
should i hold out hope that he'll change? how long should i give it before i move on?
2007-01-17 06:45:52 · 8 answers · asked by Sara K 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Before and after our son was born my husband said absolutely no more kids. I had always wanted 2, but I decided it was not worth the fight to try to convince him otherwise, I would be happy with my one. Well, when my son turned about 14 months old my husband says to me he wants to try to have girl. Well I jumped on the chance, had my IUD removed and was pregnant within a month. People change their minds all the time, but in your case, just be sure you guys will be together forever, because raising a child with an ex sucks.
2007-01-17 10:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by mskittyrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf was like that for the first 3 years of dating. At the end of 2005 I had gotten pregnant, right after our 2 year mark, he was not that happy about. I lost the baby a few months later, he seemed sad but I think it was because I was so heartbroken. Then I got preg again in Oct of 06 and two weeks before Christmas I lost it again....So as Im crying because I was sad, my bf told me that as soon as 3 months pass we can start trying, and that he would like to have a kid with me. So needless to say mine changed his mind, and I thought he would never.
2007-01-17 07:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by angel01182 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I thought we had found the perfect people because neither of us wanted children. We were going to be free spirits forever. After being married 4 years that little voice started going off in my head and suddenly I wanted kids. I talked to him about it and was so nervous about what he would say. He decided he did want to have a family if I did and we were pregnant a month later. It was the best thing we ever did, he's a gaga crazy daddy, the best ever.
So yes, people can change their mind, but you can't bank on it. but never say never....
2007-01-17 06:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if hes really against it, and it's important to you, you may want to just move on. You can't force someone to change their mind, and you will be very dissapointed if they don't. You also don't want to try to force someone to have children if it's not what thay want. That is a HUGE commitment. I never wanted children. I got pregnant, and we decided to have the baby. While I love my daughter more than anything, I have a really ahrd time being a parent. I miss my freedom, and wish I didn't have the responsibility.
2007-01-17 07:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do change their minds, my partner wanted kids up until the morning sickness started then he decided that pregnancy symptoms were grosss so he went to live with someone else getting his dibbins there when his severely disabled daughter was born i had to inform him as it was a condition that he was a carrier of and has an 80%chance of fathering more kids the same, he decided to come back because he thought i was desperate for his company, then decided that he couldnt cope anymore with me getting up several times a night to get my daughter breathing again also tubefeeding wasnt his thing so hes gone back to his whore, he doesnt want kids now
2007-01-17 07:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont fool yourself. If this is his decision, he probably won't change his mind. People know what is best for them. My cousin married a guy whom she knew did not want children. Well 2 months after the wedding she comes up pregnant, thinking he will just accept it. It is not going well with them. He does as little as possible with that baby. I don't think their marriage will last. You just can't change someones mind.
2007-01-17 06:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by HONEYB1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how serious the relationship is. Are you seriously looking to get married and start a family soon? Then why waste any more time with someone who doesn't share your same goals? Explain to him why you are considering ending the relationship, his reaction will either confirm your decision or make him reconsider.
2007-01-17 06:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by rshegv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-01-17 06:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋